Root of Your Relationship Issues: Tarot Pick a Card

Hello, my soul friends! Today I have a psychic reading on the root of your relationship issues. You can use this for a specific person, the dynamic between you and others, or how you contribute to the problem. Just make sure to have a clear idea in mind of which one of these it is.

All you have to do is pick the pile that sticks out to you the most. Which image inspires your intuition? That’s your pile and that’s your tarot reading.

After you select your cards, scroll down to your pile or choose below.

Here I’m using the Santa Muerte Tarot deck (this is an affiliate link that supports me if you make a purchase). Remember that you have free will. That means you can manifest the positive and avoid the negative of any reading.

Now it’s time to get to the root of your relationship issues.

Pile 1: Grinder

Money Is Relationship Evil

It seems like the main problem in your relationships is money. According to the Four of Pentacles, Reversed someone is either greedy or incompetent when it comes to finances.

This causes a lot of stress in any relationship, but especially romantic ones. What’s probably at fault for those who chose this pile is that either the primary person responsible for handling money is bad at that role or the people involved in shared financial decision-making aren’t on the same page.

Whatever the case, you need to make sure that everyone involved understands the financial goals you have and how to honor those goals. Because relationships often have some level of shared finances and any discrepancies can cause major blow-ups in the future.

It can help to sit down and create an informal or formal financial strategy. However, not everyone will agree to this or follow any recommendations agreed upon, so be aware that you may need to change up what everyone is responsible for to keep things from causing issues.

Some in this pile may benefit from an accountant or other financial manager so there will be unbiased, educated perspective to lean on for major decisions.

This Person Won’t Change

The second card in this spread is Santa Muerte, Reversed. Whoever is responsible for this particular relationship issue isn’t likely to change. I know, I know, that’s not fun to hear, but it’s something you need to be prepared for in the very likely chance the person won’t overcome their tendencies.

Because it doesn’t have to mean the end of the relationship in this case.

The reason why they won’t change may vary for everyone, from addiction, impulse buying, terrible accounting skills, or even just being overwhelmed. Sometimes the reason this person can’t change is that the situation needs to change and they need help to do that.

So when you sit down and create a financial strategy, either with this other person or without them, understand that whoever is responsible probably won’t change a lot of their behavior.

Instead of naively hoping this person will change or work against their personality, work with it. Change up who does what when it comes to finances in the relationship and create bank alerts and allowances. There are a lot of tools and methods to address any financial relationship woe.

Finally, for those who are dealing with financial problems because of lending money to people you know – either stop lending money or stop asking for it. Because it doesn’t look like the situation is going to change any time soon so stop fueling the problem from whichever side you’re on.

It Will Turn Out Okay

Notice that this spread doesn’t indicate the breaking of a relationship because of money issues. That’s because the third card, Six of Cups, means a happier past or the ability to transition into a happier relationship situation. There’s just too much positivity to end on to ignore that fact.

Money problems are rarely relationship killers if some sort of agreement can be reached to stop the current problem. You may also find that some of the existing stress in your relationship fades away.

Once you eradicate the source of the primary stress in a relationship, minor problems that stem from it also tend to fall away. So if you treat the root cause of this money problem, expect things to get easier and more enjoyable in this relationship.

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Pile 2: Typewriter

Happily Foolish

Overall, this is a positive spread and I think the root issue can be resolved if the proper attention is paid to it. The first card, The Fool, indicates that someone in the relationship acts impulsively. Most of the time it works out well for them, but one of their impulsive decisions has caused problems in the past and has introduced fears more problems will exist in the future.

This card is notable for normally featuring a dog warning the Fool of potential problems ahead. I don’t see that in this card and I sense it’s significant in your spread because my attention is drawn to that lack of canine. The problems in this relationship can be prevented with proper warning ahead of time.

It’s unlikely the Fool is going to change who they are, especially since their impulsiveness normally works out for them. If this is you, understand that your relationship isn’t happy. If it’s someone else, know that this person is oblivious to the problems they’re causing.

If you’re the Fool, talk to the other person in your relationship and encourage them to warn you if you’re going too far or if it looks like there are problems ahead – and practice listening to them.

But if someone else is the Fool, you need to develop a strategy to get their attention – and learn when not to even bother. Only intervene when it endangers the relationship or them. Otherwise, let this person fall on their face as it’s the only way they’ll learn.

Advice for the Fool

The next card, Three of Wands, Reversed suggests a narrowing of the world. Whenever the Fool makes a mistake, it causes the walls in the relationship to close in on everyone. This creates limitations and frustrations.

I sense that the Fool doesn’t see far ahead of the current situation and is perhaps trying to do too much at once. This Fool needs to develop a plan, even if it’s a vague one they tweak along the way, and try not to do too much at once.

Their goal should be to look towards immediate rewards. For example: a person who wants to be a singer and always assumes the next gig they do is their big break so they spend a lot of money and burn bridges to make the event a success.

Do you know what would be better? If they created a smaller goal like “finish the gig without flubbing a single line.” Their goals should always be immediately achievable instead of relying on big, and usually lucky, changes.

What’s Next

Now that you know what the Fool needs to do, consider the final card, The Chariot, Reversed. Not a lot of progress is being made and perhaps this is true in the relationship itself. That’s because the Fool is so distracted by their dreams and picking up their lives from their failures that they’re not able to do as much as they hoped.

It’s one step forward, two steps back with them.

But if the Fool is finally able to listen to good advice, things will probably start going in the right direction again and the relationship will be a happier experience.

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Pile 3: Butterflies

Not Careful At All

There’s a lot of difficulty in this spread. The first card, Eight of Pentacles, Reversed, means that someone in the relationship isn’t paying attention to important details.

Even if they’re doing the work, they aren’t doing it well, and because of that, the relationship is suffering. Now what they’re doing wrong may not be immediately connected to the relationship. Some in this spread may find that this person is sloppy at work or terrible at cleaning.

Either way, whatever this person does without care causes a fallout in the relationship. Perhaps they aren’t earning enough money, their health is failing and endangering the longevity of the relationship, or their home is a mess – something like that.

Everything else could be good, but this is causing more and more stress to pile up.

Just One Thing

On the surface, this person may think things are all right. That’s because the Five of Pentacles, Reversed card indicates that something they’re working on is doing well enough and they don’t think there are problems elsewhere in the relationship.

This often happens with people who aren’t detail-oriented and become sloppy. What usually happens is they focus on just one thing to do well and hope everything else will just fall into place around it.

This would be like the person who is terrible at chores, but takes out the trash every night consistently and assumes that’s enough – and it isn’t. Or the person who always goes to work on time, but doesn’t try to aim for a promotion and thus their’s no forward movement financially in the relationship from their side.

This person is choosing to be or oblivious to the fact what they’re doing isn’t sufficient.

A Resolution May Not Be Possible

It can seem like everything I discussed before indicates a very easy problem to fix – and it should be. However, the final card, Four of Cups, suggests this person will be offered solutions again and again and just never take them.

If this is you: wake up. Your relationship is falling apart around you no matter how well you think you’re doing in other areas. Ask the other person what you can do better and act on it. Otherwise, things are going to get worse and worse until there is a fallout between you and you lose the other person.

As for those who see this in others, know that this person is unlikely to change and you can’t intervene on their behalf. Something about your situation makes you taking up the slack either impossible or unfair to you.

I think it’s very possible for those who chose this pile to find themselves breaking up their relationship. But if that’s not what you want you’ll need to confront this person and perhaps push them beyond what they’re willing to do.

There will be arguments and I can’t see in this spread if confrontation alone will resolve the problem. However, what I can tell is that you’re not happy with the status quo and things can’t remain as they are. I also don’t think you can live with things as they are.

Sometimes even small problems can snowball out of control and I think this is one of them. Sloppiness incurs bigger and bigger mistakes over time.

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