Be More Attractive — Tarot Pick a Card
Hello, my soul friends! Today I have a psychic tarot reading on how you can be more attractive to a current or future romantic partner. I chose a deck focused on things you would reasonably have in your power.
All you have to do to receive this message is pick one of the piles above using your intuition.
After you select your cards, scroll down to your pile or choose below.
For this reading, I’ve chosen the Sacred Self-Care Oracle deck (this is an affiliate link that supports me if you make a purchase). Remember that you have free will. That means you can manifest the positive and avoid the negative of any reading.
Now it’s time to find out how you can be more attractive.
Pile 1: Raccoon
Change the Feelings Around You
For you to be more attractive, you need to think less about how your body looks and more about the attitude or energy you exude.
The first card, Clear Your Energy Field, suggests that you’re embodying an attitude that isn’t conducive to attracting someone romantically. This energy also isn’t something that’s truly yours, so it may be causing warped behavior. That can result in someone not seeing you for who you are.
Be aware that for some of you, the energy you’re giving off is a very negative one. But for others, it could just be a mismatch.
You can clear your energy in two ways: the first is through awareness and behavior correction. Journaling or mindful questions to yourself will aid with this. Ask yourself – “am I acting like myself right now?”
The other is spiritual. Things like saging your space (or your body), taking a purifying bath, and et cetera will help push away negative energy that’s clinging onto you.
Intimate Connection
Being desired often encourages someone to act or change things about themselves to be more attractive. For example, teenagers often pick out their favorite outfits and groom themselves in a special way when they suspect someone is interested in them.
The second card, Sex, can mean literally having sex. If you’re in a relationship, focusing on having a consistent sexual relationship will do wonders for your attractiveness. You’ll feel desired.
Similarly, having sex while dating can help.
However, not everyone has casual sex, so you should really consider this card as what it symbolically represents: what do you need to do to feel desired? To feel like you’re captivated by another person?
Separating your attractive-making activities, usually grooming, from that relationship often discourages someone from taking care of themselves.
You may find it helpful to surround yourself with romantic stories if you’re single, look out at other people and focus on why you’re attracted to someone, and et cetera.
What you don’t do is compare your level of attractiveness to someone else. Don’t view being attractive as a competition. View it as an intimate connection you have with another person. It’s a psychological state that then changes your behavior, not the other way around.
Be Friendly and Be Interesting
This may surprise you, but part of cleansing the negative energy that’s clinging to you is to Spend Time With Friends. While it may seem unrelated to your romantic life, friendship often promotes positive social behaviors that make someone more interesting in a relationship.
More than ever, our romantic partners are also our friends. Sometimes they’re our best friends. Being able to bond with them on a level beyond romance will help to forge a better connection.
That’s the thing about being attractive: it’s not just about looking beautiful or handsome. The energy you give off and how the other person interacts with that is very important.
Social relationships, including romantic ones, should energize you. So for a partner to be attracted, they need to feel as if you’re magnetic to be around.
But don’t try to be an ideal or an archetype. Just focus on being yourself and finding other people, friends and romantic partners, who like to just relax and hang out in your presence.
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Pile 2: Bear
Know Who You Are
Sometimes, being attractive is about being in touch with yourself. When you’re untethered to your sense of self, it’ll be hard to radiate an attractive energy to others.
The first card, Alone Time, is about embracing the enjoyment of your own company. Now this is certainly more difficult for extroverts, so what I want you to see in this card isn’t about choosing isolation, but about choosing contentment with the time you spend when not directly interacting with others.
For some, this will be short, while for introverts like myself, can be quite extensive. However, when alone, you should feel comfortable with who you are.
Who you feel to be when you’re alone should be the same person when you’re in company. Now you might be more talkative around others, but you shouldn’t be acting in such a way that you can’t recognize yourself in those two settings.
To practice this, spend time alone every day for at least two weeks where you do something without the expectation of being seen. This will help you integrate and familiarize with your inner self so you can carry it out into the world.
Love Yourself
The next card is gendered because the deck is gendered, however there’s symbolism that applies to everyone. This card is Connect with Your Womb. This is about identifying and working with your body’s rhythms.
Women tend to know this really well because their hormones make them feel different throughout the month. However, men also have their own rhythms and preferences they should respect to feel whole.
This wholeness with your body identity will help you feel more attractive. You won’t be surprised by the strange things your body does and you’ll be able to appreciate or accept that it’s part of being you.
For example, I get terrible migraines and feel very emotional right before my period. This can cause me to feel ugly and miserable. But the more I am aware of this tendency, the more I’ll realize it’s just hormones and it’s part of a cycle. I let myself rest during these times and treat myself with compassion.
Whoever you are or how you identify, know that your body will do things that aggravate you emotionally. But that doesn’t have to define how attractive you feel. Instead, work with that rhythm so you can do things to make yourself feel good again.
Many women during that time of the month will actually pamper and seek self-care practices to feel beautiful. Maybe you need to adopt something similar (especially if you’re a man since you probably don’t do any self-care practices and deserve it too).
Consider Your Mental Frame
Most people don’t encode memories correctly. Anytime you try to recall a memory, your present self also tends to rewrite it a bit differently.
By having a regular practice Journal, you can control your memories better. Be intentional with this practice and focus on ways to love yourself and view yourself favorably.
Write down the facts, but go ahead and write down your feelings and how you want to feel about those facts so your memories will encode in a healthy way. That will help you to feel more attractive because your past, present, and eventual future will be more in harmony.
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Pile 3: Zebra
Smell Beautiful
I sense that routines will make you more attractive. The first card, Aromatherapy, can indicate a few things related to this.
But what is aromatherapy? It’s using the essential oils of plants. One of the most common ways to do this right now is an oil diffuser in your home that you maintain. It’ll make your home smell pretty and people often report it makes them feel good too.
However, aromatherapy can also be done in other ways. The second most common method is a perfume or cologne that you wear daily. Depending on what type of person you’re attracted to, you can use the preferences of that type to choose a scent most will enjoy.
If you’re currently in a relationship though, ask your partner. They might be different from the norm.
Many people report choosing certain scents depending on how they feel that day or want to feel. So having a selection of oils may be of particular use to you.
Routinely bathing with drops of essential oils is also recommended.
Align Your Energy
Self-care seems to be prominent in your spread, but especially self-care set on a routine. The second card, Energy Work, suggests you should have some sort of ritual where you balance your body’s energies.
There is a lot of ways to do this. Before spirituality was more common, many people would go for a massage or acupuncture.
But other methods, like reiki, crystal healing, or yoga are also frequent.
You have a lot of options here, but focus on something you can do consistently throughout the year as your base method.
The reason this will help you to be more attractive is that investing in yourself, and how you feel, tends to make you more energetic. Being attractive is partly about exuding energy, but also fitness and grooming.
When you’re tired, you’re not going to want to put in the effort to look more attractive. You’ll want to turtle and reserve your energy by retreating inside instead of focusing on how you radiate out in the world.
So finding your energy work practice will help you recover.
Trust the Moon
This speaks more to having a self-care routine than anything else, but if you Sync with the Moon, you’ll align yourself with the energy of the cosmos and use that to your advantage.
A New Moon is a good time to start things, a First Quarter Moon to tweak a current project or build on, a Full Moon to celebrate or engage with something intensely, and the Last Quarter Moon an opportunity to reflect.
Most calendars mark the New and Full Moons, but you can look them up online quite easily if not. There’s a lot of beautifying energy related to the Moon and working with that energy as part of a self-care practice would help with that.
A lot of people will substitute a moon sync to a once a week home self-care day. Either helps you to slow things down and be at peace with your environment.
People often report feeling run down or even uglier when they’re rushed. Slow down at least once per week and you should be more attractive.
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