Your Relationship Compatibility — Tarot Pick a Card

Hello, my soul friends! Today I have a psychic tarot reading on your compatibility with a person on your mind. This can be someone you’re in a relationship with or someone you’re interested in. I’ll also discuss what to do if there are any compatibility problems.

All you have to do to receive this message is pick one of the piles above using your intuition.

After you select your cards, scroll down to your pile or choose below.

For this reading, I’ve chosen the Ethereal Visions Illuminated Tarot deck (this is an affiliate link that supports me if you make a purchase). Remember that you have free will. That means you can manifest the positive and avoid the negative of any reading.

Now let’s check your compatibility with your person.

Pile 1: Dragon

Look Closer to Home

With the Ten of Cups card showing up first, I have strong confidence in your base-level compatibility with this person. While there are other issues in this spread, it seems like what can be gained from this relationship outweighs the bad.

However, it’s important to consider what this card promises: domestic culmination. On average, you’ll be happy with this person if your goal is to be in a long-term, committed relationship where you build a family.

This could include having children, and this card strongly encourages it, but this is also about emotional resonance. You need to spend time together just enjoying each other’s company.

That’s one of the reasons why having children resonates so well because it reorients your focus away from the external world into the home. Whether or not you have children, know that focusing on your career or hobbies shouldn’t be the priority of your life.

You need to put your partner first most of the time. And they should do the same for you. However, you only start putting your partner first once you’re in a committed relationship like a marriage.

Don’t Expect Perfection

You may have some ideals which aren’t reasonable or something you’d even like. The Nine of Cups, Reversed suggests everything you wished for in a relationship won’t come true.

That’s not necessarily a bad thing. You can’t mail-order the perfect partner, so you have to be open to some flaws or some minor incompatibility. Perhaps you love romantic comedies and your partner hates them so much they need to leave the room. Something like that.

It could also be a sign that you or your partner sometimes annoys the other. You aren’t looking for perfection here, but you are looking for the ability to resolve conflicts when they arise.

Of course, the focus of this relationship is on the home so you need to have something in common and like each other’s personality enough to enjoy each other’s company.

Although arranged marriages are rarer now, if this is your situation or you need an example to illustrate what I’m saying, a good arranged marriage can’t just be based on common goals – you have to get along so romantic feelings have the room to grow. Because I do think this spread indicates an arranged marriage could turn into that here.

Be Mindful of Problems

I do see a major problem. The Devil card is about temptation or addiction and it’s something that can wrap both of you up in it. While it can be something serious like drugs or alcohol, it might also be overeating, poor financial habits, or porn addiction.

The point is, either you or your partner is going to discover a vice in the other. This can harm a relationship that is otherwise very compatible. But I do get the sense you’ll want to suffer through this with your partner together, which does indicate a high level of commitment.

My recommendation is that you and your partner need to address problems before they get out of hand. Be open in communication on these issues and you’ll probably find that this becomes an issue that is easily avoided.

Not everyone with a genetic predisposition towards alcoholism ends up being an alcoholic, and the same idea holds here. Your relationship doesn’t have to fall to temptation if you take pre-emptive measures.

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Pile 2: Earth

A Problem Exists

There appears to be a secret or something currently unknown to you. This can cause a breakup in the future. The Three of Swords is the heartbreak card, but this is also a card of the truth being unveiled.

Compared with the rest of this spread, I don’t see any indication that this person is incompatible with you. Rather there’s an issue that could be a dealbreaker if it’s not dealt with appropriately.

I have a higher confidence if this is about a relationship you’re already part of. It’s a lot easier to forgive and work through a serious issue with a partner who otherwise loves you.

But if you’re single, this is a strong indication that your love interest has a secret or trait you would hate. It’ll be hard for you to look past that if you don’t already have committed feelings for each other.

Consider What You Learn First

I see The Hermit, Reversed here as a very promising card. When I pull it, it almost always means returning with helpful knowledge and that’s strongly complimentary to the last card.

Understand that whatever this secret is will hurt you. But sometimes, the truth sets you free or can even be helpful.

I can’t tell the exact nature of this secret. It could very well be that this person currently likes someone else or simply has a disappointing personality trait or something like debt. Heck, it could even be they snore.

The point is that you have the option to accept that this secret exists and then work with the person you’re interested in. If you’re already in a relationship, perhaps you can talk through this issue and seek some sort of resolution.

If you’re single, this could be a sign that you need to keep your mind open about this person and see how you feel as you pursue the relationship. It may or may not be something you want to accept, but don’t make a hasty decision right away until you’re sure.

Give Yourself a Moment

The last card is the Seven of Wands, Reversed. This indicates no longer having to take the defense. Whatever you learn will set you free.

That’s because secrets are heavy and alter a person’s behavior. While it can initially hurt your feelings, no relationship can be truly compatible if there’s an active secret.

Now there’s a difference between having a secret and having a past and I think this will determine whether or not you’ll accept this secret. For example, someone may have cheated on a partner in the past and that’s not something they want you to know. But perhaps they have no intention of cheating on you.

A secret that’s harmful is when current behavior is consistent with that secret. So when you learn what this secret is, determine if that person’s behavior is indicative of misbehavior now and not just in the past.

People can and do change, sometimes for the better. But don’t make that decision immediately until some time has passed. Whatever this secret is may not bother you in the long run.

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Pile 3: Seaside

Your Person Isn’t Focused

There isn’t a strong compatibility here so working through it may be difficult (but not impossible). The first card, Knight of Swords, Reversed, indicates an unfocused and impulsive energy.

Because this is a court card, it strongly indicates your romantic interest. They aren’t as committed as they should be, meaning you’ll put in effort that won’t be matched by them. And it’s not just a little unmatched – but quite a lot.

If you’re in a relationship, then it could mean that your partner has either checked out or doesn’t know what to do. If that’s the case, giving them a relationship goal or going to therapy may help.

Their actions may be due to the fact they don’t think they have any influence over the success of the relationship. But if you’re committed, and they realize it, they might just change their behavior.

But if you’re single, this could mean the person is playing the field. That’s not necessarily a bad thing – not everyone is immediately committed after the first date, so make sure you’re on the same page about when you expect this person to be monogamous. They might just want to get to know you first before they give their heart away.

Taking On Too Much

I do think with the Ten of Wands that this relationship will be a burden for you for some time. A burden isn’t always a bad thing if it’s something you willingly take on, but realize you’re taking on a massive weight of responsibility.

That’s because your person isn’t holding up their end of the bargain. My recommendation if you’re in a relationship is to be open about your feelings and make sincere requests for their help or romantic attention.

There is a possibility for some of you in this spread that your romantic interest has ADHD or some other neurodivergence. In that case, their behavior may have nothing to do with a lack of feeling, but a lack of executive functioning. Make sure they’re taking their medication or doing the things they need to do to take necessary relationship responsibilities.

And if you’re single, I really do see you taking on a lot of the emotional labor. Are you ready for that? Your partner may eventually learn to give as much as they get, but they may expect you to do more in the beginning and that might not be fair even if you’re otherwise compatible in other areas.

Don’t Be a Relationship Martyr

There’s a strong possibility in this spread that regardless of other compatible traits, the Eight of Cups indicates you or your partner eventually leaving.

That would happen if you feel like your partner isn’t mature enough for the relationship. Don’t blame yourself no matter what happens – your partner is an adult and should be expected to act with a base level of responsibility and equality of romantic attention.

It’s not your duty to meet them where they are. It’s a choice. But if you choose not to make it, you’re not a bad person. They may have their own needs, but so do you.

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