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  1. Thank you so much, this is so relatable with me as I also have a sleep disorder, although different, and work in 9 to 5 job. I also like tarot and writing 😁 This is really helpful to consider about my purpose to work. Thank you.

    1. I’m really happy it could help, Farrah! It’s really difficult to live with a sleep disorder, but I hope that you find a schedule that works better for you in the future! 🙂

  2. Dear Emmarie, I have experienced jet lag and saving time, it feels weary and somewhat like a hangover. Things slow down.

    Thank you for the analysis and conclusions. Well written and well argumented.

    How do we find out what we were meant to do? Is it silent meditation, or past lives analysis? I don’t know and have noone to ask.

    Feeling overwhelmed after a week of working extra hard, and there is no end next week. Staying mindful.

    Are our relationships not the key to life? How we relate to the world and each other.

    I did learn of Buddhism over last two years (a lot of listening and practicing Vipassana ) and it has helped me to disenchant from the world. At the same time, it does raise the question of where I go from here.

    Blessings, be happy, A.

    1. There are two aspects of happiness. The first is fulfillment: something that makes you content with the scope of your life. The second is joy. These are the moments of happiness you experience, like laughing at a joke or eating your favorite food. If you only solve one, you won’t be happy. That’s why someone can’t go 100% in on their higher purpose. They need joy from the daily lives too.

      Relationships usually comprise of one or both categories and many people report feeling fulfilled doing multiple things even if they have a higher purpose. Many people fall in love AND have a dream career AND have kids. So relationships will bring you fulfillment and purpose even if it’s not your higher purpose. Work towards those too.

      Since most if not all higher purposes I encounter deal with helping other people in some way, even if it’s something like creating music other people love, relationships are pretty much key to life.

      One thing to ask yourself is what can you do to help other people? What problem can you solve? What problem would you LIKE to solve for other people?

      Pretty much everyone figures this out in different ways so you can experiment until you feel like you’ve found a purpose to work towards. Don’t try to find the perfect purpose. Look for the one right now that excites you the most. A person’s higher purpose can change or be modified by life’s circumstances.

      You usually already know what it could be because it’s going to be related to one of your interests or personal skills. It might be related to a responsibility you have, but aren’t emphasizing more. What spiritual practices do is help detach you from unrelated worries so you can get in touch with your intuition and unlock it. Past life regressions can help, but only because you recognize yourself and your interests in your past lives.

      Meditation basically works to unlock your intuition and inner voice.

      But what if you can’t find it using these methods? This happens. I had no idea that teaching was my higher purpose because I never had the opportunity to teach others until midway through college. There was no way for me to use my intuition to figure this out as I hadn’t had experience to compare it too. Even if a tarot reading had told me this was my higher purpose, I would’ve ignored it. This may be true for you right now.

      Explore things. Try things out. Even use personality tests. Eventually a purpose (and an associated job or hobby) will be presented to you and you’ll start to resonate with it. But only when you have experience with it, however small. Go in the direction of what excites you and pursue the opportunities that come your way.

      Example: a fast food worker doesn’t know what they want to do in life. But they discover they’re really interested in art. They explore artistic mediums and realize they love woodworking. They try it out, but hate building furniture and love sculpting figurines. Eventually they start selling figurines on Etsy, but end up specializing in custom made chess pieces because it just feels right due to their other passion for chess.

      During this time the person may have gone to art school or started doing art commissions for others. Maybe they became a graphic designer to make ends meet. The trick is to not feel so intent on “finishing things you start” that you miss out on future opportunities. This is called the sunk cost fallacy.

      Part of pursuing your higher purpose is being okay with letting things that don’t match it anymore go. Part of your current frustration may be that you’re still holding onto things you no longer care for because you feel like you must keep doing them. It’s okay to change your mind. It’s also okay to change your mind gradually.