Heal Emotional Wounds — Tarot Pick a Card

Hello, my soul friends! Today I have a psychic tarot reading on how you can heal your emotional wounds. These are the painful things you carry with you that you’re struggling to recover from.

All you have to do is follow your intuition and pick the pile that sticks out to you the most.

After you select your cards, scroll down to your pile or choose below.

For this reading, I’ve chosen the Believe in Your Own Magic Oracle deck (this is an affiliate link that supports me if you make a purchase). Remember that you have free will. That means you can manifest the positive and avoid the negative of any reading.

Now let’s get to the healing.

Pile 1: Lion

Break From the Past

Your emotional wounds have carried your thoughts away from you. This means you no longer have a grip on them you need to have full autonomy.

The reason for this happening is due to the Nostalgia card. You’re stuck in the past, and understandably so, but the wisdom message here has some advice: “Focus on the here and now.”

There’s this psychological thing called rumination. It’s where you repeatedly think about negative things in an unhealthy spiral.

It’s true you can’t erase the past and it’s not helpful to completely forget about it if you need to work through something, but it seems like you’re obsessively spiraling in a way that’s not helpful.

Work on mindfulness exercises, like meditation, which help place you firmly in the present and break that psychological cycle.

Emotional Rollercoaster

Another thing in your spread indicates you aren’t thinking rationally about your emotional wounds. The second card, Feather, has the wisdom message of “Think first before you judge.”

This isn’t rumination, but thinking objectively before assigning emotional feelings toward what you’re experiencing. Because I think you may struggle to do this with the past right now, I instead want you to focus on new events that trigger the rumination cycle.

Create an emotional survey for when you feel slammed by external triggers. For example, someone who ruminates about their weight needs to create an emotional survey for when they feel as if people are looking at them in public.

Are they really looking at you and thinking you’re fat? Probably not. If they are, does that really warrant you feeling bad about yourself right now? No.

The reality is that most people are self-centered and even their judgments towards others are fleeting and shallow. As soon as you’re out of sight, you’re out of mind and forgotten.

Remember: this emotional survey doesn’t erase the past or fix anything that may or may not be true about what you’re ruminating. What it’s intended to do is help you process events without losing your mind to a depressive episode. You’re learning to detach rather than emotionally attach to the event.

But if you find you can’t avoid ruminating or struggle with emotional surveys, it may be time to talk with someone you trust like a friend or therapist.

You’ve Tokenized Help

It seems like you’re looking for an artificial crutch. The third card, Wings, has the wisdom message of “You never needed those wings to fly.”

Although it’s fine to have a crutch to begin with, something you held onto as an emotional crutch is becoming a burden rather than an assistant. This token is an emotional security blanket that has served its time as training wheels and is something you can let go of.

The reason you need to let go of it is that the presence of this token triggers you into bad behavior. For example, someone who always brings their friend with them to go shopping so they feel emotionally safe while trying on clothes may then associate clothes shopping with their friend. What happens when their friend isn’t available? Then this person can’t buy new clothes.

You may need to gradually decouple from this token rather than going cold turkey. For example, this person could look for clothes online and pick them up in the store, or try them on, take pictures, and then return to the store alone after asking their friend what they thought.

The goal, however, is to eventually do the thing you rely upon with a crutch independently from that token.

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Pile 2: Polar Bear

Don’t Believe the Messaging

You’re lying to yourself. Perhaps you were taught that you need to be modest or you need to be realistic with your goals. However, this language caused you not to personalize your life journey, but to live how others expected even when it didn’t work for you.

The first card, Flower, has the wisdom message of “Be honest with yourself.” You’re lying about your potential, and because of this, you have emotional wounds. The objective part of your brain knows that you can do more for yourself, but you’re programmed against it because it’s “selfish.”

I’ll use an example I encountered growing up. I never thought women couldn’t succeed in life, but when I was a teenager and when I entered college, I was told that “Women will never succeed because of sexism.” Sexism exists, but I believe that, as an individual, I could never succeed in life unless mass political movements happened first.

Yet in my normal life, I never encountered sexism. There wasn’t an obstacle in my place, yet I was led to believe there was any and everywhere I looked.

Because of this, I held back, even though the people telling me these things had good intentions. And indeed, this is what you need to examine the most: sometimes people with good intentions disempower you by accident.

You need to see beyond what the messaging around you is saying because you can’t generalize your individual experience to the masses. You’re distinct and sometimes your experiences will challenge what you’re being told.

Surprise Yourself

There’s usually a way to make what you desire happen. Maybe not 100% as you envisioned, but pretty close or in a way you’d also be happy with.

The second card in your spread, Stars, has the wisdom message of “You can manifest your every wish.”

Spend some time brainstorming things you wish could be true. Write down even the silly ones. Then pick one thing and brainstorm ways that could realistically happen (perhaps with some modifications).

Maybe someone with stage fright dreams of being a comedian. Did you know that solo sketch comedy filmed at home is a huge niche on social media? Be open to your dreams surprising you in a positive way.

There’s something else you need to realize too. Just as you’ve been negatively pressured to believe things by the messaging around you, even some of your positive dreams may be based on what you think you should want instead of what you would actually enjoy.

Control What’s Around You

Know that reprogramming yourself requires changing your environment. The final card, Lavender, has the wisdom message of “Surround yourself with love.”

You can’t control everything in your environment, but you can influence some of the messages you’re encountering with intentional placement of positivity or reinforcement.

Someone who wants to be in a fulfilling romantic relationship might avoid toxic reality shows, depressing love songs, and hookup culture.

Pick one thing you want to manifest and identify something to add to your environment and something you can avoid. How do you think you’d feel? Better. And you’d be more likely to succeed in manifesting what you want for yourself too.

If you’re in a depressing or hostile environment, it will be difficult to overcome it. You need to change that environment if you want to feel uplifted and encouraged.

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Pile 3: Elephant

Advocate for Yourself

You’ve made a lot of sacrifices. There are always times when this should be done, but unless you’re sacrificing for a dependent like a child or sick family member, you’re probably going above and beyond what you should. And even if you are making important sacrifices for someone who needs you, everybody deserves a vacation.

Your first card, Sundress, has the wisdom message of “Do it for you.” There are usually ways in which you can compromise between you’re must-dos and want-to-dos. Working-class parents, for example, will sometimes go to school in the evening to prepare for their dream careers and to make more money than they do now.

Notice I didn’t just use an example of self-care. Sometimes, the sacrifices you make should be for yourself and your future. Is there something you could do for yourself that you aren’t doing because the effort required would mean you can’t sacrifice for someone else?

It’s okay to exert effort for yourself. It’s okay to manifest your desires and dreams. That’s how you start healing your emotional wounds: by recognizing that you’re a person who deserves to have their dreams come true.

There Is More Than One Start

There’s a lot of opportunity out there. Your second card, Morning, has the wisdom message of “The world awaits you.” I see this card as indicating there are multiple things you can reach for in life, including things you don’t even know yet.

Don’t make the mistake of assuming you can work towards one thing in life, but then after that, you have to focus on only others. You will have many chapters in your life and you can start new things you weren’t even planning.

You need to see each day, week, month, and year as an opportunity to explore new possibilities of life experiences. Don’t punish yourself by seeing one “indulgence” as needing to be paid with a series of sacrifices for others. Trust me: if you’re sacrificing a lot, someone is enjoying luxury at your expense.

This means sitting down with your loved ones and discussing options. Maybe it’s time for them to make some sacrifices for you.

One silly but common example I often see is chores. Some parents assume they have to do everything themselves, but housework can easily reach thirty to forty hours a week per household. If they teach their children how to take on some tasks, then the family may only be spending ten hours or less on chores each week individually instead of one person doing twenty or forty in addition to work and school.

Teach a Man to Fish

It may seem like you’re spread is confrontational, but that’s not the case. Your third card, Castle, has the wisdom message of “It’s time for healing, not war.”

The truth is that most of the sacrifices someone makes are a sacrifice for improvement. When that sacrifice is made, someone’s life is improved.

But when someone steps in for someone else, then the person who’s being helped loses some autonomy. They’ll develop learned helplessness. Children are often victims of this in which their parents do everything for them so they never learn things like cleaning and cooking.

By asking someone to take responsibility for themselves, you’re empowering them. And it heals your emotional wound because you’ll feel seen. The more you sacrifice for others needlessly, the more you feel taken advantage of. But don’t frame it as helping you: frame it as helping them. Because it does.

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