Freeze This From Your Life: Tarot Pick a Card

Hello, my soul friends! Today I have a psychic reading on what harmful things should be pushed out of your life so you can be happier.

All you have to do is pick the pile that sticks out to you the most. Which image inspires your intuition? That’s your pile and that’s your tarot reading.

After you select your cards, scroll down to your pile or choose below.

Here I’m using the Dark Mirror Oracle deck (this is an affiliate link that supports me if you make a purchase). Remember that you have free will. That means you can manifest the positive and avoid the negative of any reading.

Now it’s time to freeze the bad out of your life to make room for the good.

Pile 1: Violin

You Want Things to Be Different

It seems you have an unhealthy fixation on something. The first card in your spread, Gilded Regret, indicates that whatever this is, it doesn’t make you happy.

There are a lot of reasons you can find yourself regretting a decision you’ve made, but I want you to realize that this card suggests it has either become your identity or it was a poison disguised by something good.

That means some people in your life who could support you in overcoming this regret either see you as a lost cause or don’t realize the extent this thing has harmed you.

But know that this spread and this reading does mean you can overcome this. It won’t be easy, but it’s possible. You’re meant to overcome this struggle.

Dependent and Triggered

What you appear to regret may be something you’re Addicted to, given the second card in your spread. This addiction could be something physical, like a drug, but it can also be a habit, psychological belief, or even a person.

Either way, you’ve developed a dependence on whatever it is you need to freeze from your life. Overcoming this addiction will first require you to recognize why you’re dependent on it in the first place. What is the cue that triggers your desire for this thing?

For example, someone who is addicted to chocolate. Upon introspection, they realize they seek out chocolate because it comforts them when stressed. And their life isn’t easy so they frequently feel stressed.

You need to understand that sometimes your trigger, the reason you seek out your addiction, can’t always be erased from your life completely. This chocolate-addicted person may be able to reduce some of their stress, but not all of it, so they would need to find a healthier way to cope other than overeating chocolate.

Identify your trigger and then determine if it’s something you can completely eradicate in your life or if it’s something you’ll need to cope with in another way.

Find a New Fixation

I have a feeling that whatever your addiction is, you tried to avoid it or experimented with different coping mechanisms in the past. However, your third card, Obsession, means that your current addiction has been the most effective method you found so far for whatever your trigger is.

Everyone is different. What works for some won’t always work for others. That chocolate-obsessed person might have been told to eat carrots when stressed or to go and exercise. That works for some people – but perhaps not for them. They might be better served by deep breathing or a fun activity they can do from the comfort of a chair.

Brainstorm all the ways you’ve tried to tackle your addiction before and outline why it didn’t work. Then consider your trigger and ways you’ve been able to temporarily satiate it in other ways in the past. A smoker, for example, may not always be able to fulfill their nicotine addiction in every situation, so they no doubt have other coping mechanisms when push comes to shove.

Your other coping mechanisms may be imperfect, but they should be informative on how you can start looking for new methods.

That chocolate-obsessed person may realize that, in the past, they allowed themselves to daydream when they didn’t have access to chocolate so they end up finding that listening to music and imagining stories to the beat is a good coping mechanism for when they’re stressed.

There’s something out there that will help you cope and freeze your addiction out of your life. Your goal is to start looking for it.

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Pile 2: Moth

You’re Wearing a Mask

Your spread is sad because it seems as if you were pushed to accept an identity for yourself that didn’t resonate with you. The first card in your spread, Hiding Your True Self, means that you’re hiding all or at least part of yourself to fit the expectations of those around you.

Most who read these pick a cards are adults so they tend to have some level of autonomy. However, the influences of your childhood may have pressured you to accept a future you didn’t want.

Even though you no doubt tried to alter that future upon adulthood to be a better fit, you’re still in a situation where you’re actively living out the expectations of others and hiding your true self.

This is what you need to freeze out of your life: the false mask you’re wearing that’s making you unhappy.

Stuck on an Image

It’s obvious this stems from childhood. For some of you, the pressure is obvious, but for others, you’ve internalized the messaging and it’s become subconscious rather than something you’re aware of.

The second card in your spread, The Child I Was Meant to Be, indicates you lived some or all of your life until this point aiming for a future that didn’t match your desires. Most were influenced by their parents, but understand that’s not always the responsible party.

School, peer pressure from friends, and cultural messaging can also be to blame.

Perhaps this vision you tried to conform to was a good path to take, but not for you. This path was a stereotype of how a life should be lived and even a child that resonated with it would have differed in some manner.

For example, a child pushed to become a doctor and resonating with that path may end up doing charity work overseas or transitioning from patient care to research or education.

So whatever path you took and however much you resonated with it, I think you stereotyped that road and you didn’t individualize it for your particular interests and life circumstances. Due to this, you adopted some stereotypical and artificial identity traits you now try to show to others.

Stop Hurting Yourself

The final card in your spread is Sacrifice. You made a sacrifice in your pursuit of conforming to this identity and you now have regrets. If you could go back in time, how would you have lived your life if you could be whatever you wanted?

This will help you identify how and why you regret the choices you made so you know not to make the same mistakes in the future. Of course, you can’t change your life overnight, but you can live in such a way to increasingly honor who you want to be.

The child who decided to follow in the footsteps of their actor parents may realize that, in midlife, this wasn’t what they wanted. It may be difficult for them to switch from acting and going back to school to be a scientist, but they can gradually adopt a life they prefer and make the transition later if it feels appropriate.

Perhaps, for example, they can take on scientist roles and immerse themselves in scientific hobbies. And, if they earn enough money from their job or have a supportive family, go back to school.

Make whatever changes you can and see where those changes gradually take you.

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Pile 3: Flowers

Distance Yourself

It seems like you’re pretending to like something or someone when you don’t. The first card, Artificial Heart, means that you’re putting on a show.

For some of you, this is an act of compassion towards someone you don’t actually like, but they haven’t done anything wrong. Pretending to be nice to them just seems like the right thing to do.

I’ll get into why that can be a problem later.

But for some in this pile, there is someone in your life who is making you actively unhappy now but you’re pretending to like or love to not rock the boat. There are times and places where it’s appropriate to pretend to like someone, but this isn’t it.

When you give the impression that you like someone, these people tend to push themselves more into your life.

You don’t have to be rude, but you need to stop encouraging them with your interest. Pretend to be bored or distracted in their presence and they aren’t going to want to be around you as much. That way you don’t have to be cruel, but you can signal to them you don’t want a close relationship.

You’re Trapping Yourself

I danced around it in the first card, but your second makes this clearer: Bride in a Cage. That’s you. The more you let this person into your life, whether they’re just someone you aren’t interested in or someone bad, the more you’re going to feel trapped.

That’s because most relationships tend to network. When you introduce someone into your life, they’re going to get to know the other people around you too.

Unfortunately, these other people may like being around this person so much that you can’t escape them even if you want to.

And for some in this pile, pretending to like someone romantically interested in you could result in you feeling pressured to accept their advances. Or, if you’re already in a relationship and you want to end it, being unable to break up.

You need to freeze this person out of your life by any means necessary. You’re trending towards having to deal with them more and more, perhaps every day. So do the slow freeze-out by seeming disinterested or cut them straight out of your life if an immediate disconnection is necessary.

Short-Sighted Thinking

Your last card explains why you’re doing this and how to overcome the psychological tendency to do so. Today for Tomorrow means you’re trying to be nice to this person today and sacrificing your future because of it.

It seems like you’re building up an expectation or relationship that you don’t want, and this person is going to collect on that even if that’s not your intention.

Although it may seem impolite to not be overly nice to them now, you need to recognize that your relationship with them is getting stronger and stronger each day. It’s going to be much harder to break away from them the more this goes on.

Stop acting on your immediate desire to be nice and assert your preference for who you want to spend time with.

You know what? Sometimes people just clash and there’s nothing wrong with either person. It’s okay to just not be as interested in someone as much as they are in you. It happens.

And course, for those who have someone abusive in their life, you’re putting it off leaving more and more. Create an exit plan with deadlines for each step so you have an immediate movement away from them. Get help from someone you trust if you need to make sure you’re making progress.

You don’t have to be around someone who makes you this unhappy.

I loved reading for you! If it resonated, let me know. You can also leave a tip on ko-fi or book a private reading on my Etsy.