One of the first questions someone might ask once they learn about divination is this: will I find true love?
As a tarot reader, I pay attention to the types of questions people ask and romance is the most popular topic. This says a lot about us, but I think it’s a positive thing. There’s nothing more we want in this universe than to love and be loved. Isn’t that beautiful?
However, a lot of people are still scared to ask this question.
Here’s why you shouldn’t be.
You Have the Power to Choose Who You Love
Some fear divination like tarot because they think it will lock them into a bad match. This couldn’t be further from the truth.
Fate and fortune-telling are complex and we don’t understand them completely. This is because we have free will, which means our influence on fate is ever-changing.
I believe that fate is the child of karma, and even though we have a destiny written at birth, our choices help co-create new revisions with the universe.
The healthy way to view divination is as an informed method to make decisions about your fate. At any moment in your life, you can make a choice that radically alters your destiny. This is true whether you use divination or not.
But what divination does is help you respect the universe’s plan by acknowledging it. At that point, you can then decide to accept or reject that plan. This gives you personal agency and allows a growth plan in tandem with the universe.
One thing to remember is that the universe gave us a soul and free will. That means the universe wants what’s best for us, and our own choices are always in consideration. We may live sequentially, but the universe doesn’t view existence that way. The universe will always go back and rewrite destiny as the need arises.
We’re designed to evolve towards our better selves – and better relationships.
Relationships and Bad Karma
You may end up in a bad relationship after using divination. So why does this happen?
Because you didn’t respect yourself and your autonomy.
There are many different methods of divination, some more static than others, like astrology, and those which are based on the moment, like tarot.
Both are accurate and worthwhile to pursue, but if you use them ineffectively, you’ll reap the worst of them.
For example, some people are born under a bad star. Their natal chart leaves much to be desired when it comes to love, so when they use astrology, they give in to their bad fortune instead of acknowledging it and using it as a foundation to improve.
They encounter an abusive person and just accept that’s their destiny. Or they never enter into a relationship at all.
Others will use something like tarot, which is more like a snapshot of the future at the moment of the reading. I’ve seen so many people mistake tarot for a more static divination method, but the real problem is they don’t see divination as self-care: they see it as the answer.
Divination isn’t about answers. It’s about understanding yourself and the universe.
And both you and the universe are capable of change.
Using Divination to Find “The One”
Every person has a perfect match out there. This is usually called a “soulmate” or “twin flame.” However, we don’t always meet this person for any number of reasons. You could be the reason, but your perfect match also has their own free will that could have taken them on a journey away from you.
But sometimes? You’ll meet that person and the relationship falls apart anyway.
That’s the hard thing about free will: it pulls you off your fated path. Sometimes this is a good thing, but other times it’s frustrating. When our fate is a good thing, breaking away from it is painful at the soul level. And with love, it’s literally heartbreaking.
When you use divination, you’re finding the path the universe has laid out for you. This makes it a lot easier to maneuver through spiritual and material energy to find the person you were always meant to be with.
Wanna know something weird though? There is a perfect match out there for you, but how you change in this life can alter who that perfect match will be. That’s why viewing your life with a perspective of growth is so important.
But divination does more than helping you meet “the one.” It can also help you keep that relationship.
The Power of Divination to Save a Relationship
Our fates are powerful, and any time we decide to revise our destiny, we create a path that is difficult to avoid unless we do so knowingly. What you eat for breakfast isn’t what I’m talking about here: but where you live, what career you pursue, and who you choose to be in a relationship with will drastically alter the universe’s plan and how your freewill will react to that plan going forward.
We tend to lose momentum and get settled in our lives after all. That’s accepting destiny.
While some people fight their destinies without using divination, this isn’t easy and they usually feel spiritually unsettled. So most will avoid it and just settle.
The universe doesn’t want you to do this. It wants you to be an active participant in your destiny rather than a passive observer. Otherwise, why would you have free will?
Divination helps you to look at your destiny, whether it’s going in a good direction or not, and make choices with a full awareness of that decision. You aren’t fighting destiny then, but choosing a different path. It might be a harder path, but the unknown spiritual pain so many people experience when they fight their destinies isn’t as powerful for those who use divination.
Let’s say that you’re with your soulmate, but you fight a lot. Your destiny is then on a path towards separation, but using divination will help you look at that path and attempt to alter it.
You should use divination to find love (or keep it). The reason is simple: it helps you to make an informed decision about your destiny which you can either accept or reject.
This awareness of your future makes it a possible instead of an inevitable one, allowing you to forge better relationships than you would have been able to do on your own.
You can always love more. So accept divination as a tool for relationship growth, rather than as “the answer.”