Are you the kind of person who doesn’t know what they want in life? Perhaps you spend hours each week watching YouTube videos on finding yourself or reading endless self-help books to uncover your inner truth.
It’s frustrating, isn’t it?
The problem with a lot of these resources is that they’re ambiguous and don’t reflect your individual needs.
That’s why you’re so ravenous for more information. Nothing is filling that hunger to know more about yourself because it can’t.
So it’s time to do something different.
Dive into your daydreams.
Daydreams Hold Your Deepest Desires
You daydream when your mind shifts into the default network. This happens when you depart from being conscious of the current moment and your attention wanders.
Different areas of your brain are activated and create a holistic experience independent from environmental stimuli. Memories, imagination, and theory of mind (when you’re aware of what other people think and feel) all provide input on your daydreaming process.
But daydreams are always about you and you’re the central figure of your mental narrative. Looking at your daydreams is a powerful way to rid your thoughts of external influences and see what you truly want.
Grab a piece of paper or open a blank document on your computer. Then write down the daydreams that are most common for you.
Which ones fill you with the most joy? Circle those and then write down anything similar about them.
Doing this will allow you to see what your ideal focus in life is.
When I daydream, I often think about romance and family. The idea of focusing solely on my career is not what I want in life.
You may need to take some time to consider what it is about your daydreams that fill you with joy. The answer might even surprise you!
Your Value is Hidden Within
People who daydream more than others tend to be creative. This is because they can think about a situation or idea separate from their current environment and lifestyle. Doing this allows a person to think outside the box.
Daydreamers can imagine without consequence, opening up a world of possibility that wouldn’t happen with traditional strategic thinking. Strategy is about probabilities, but daydreams? That’s possibility born from a broader perspective.
When it comes to finding out your true purpose with your daydreams, you can use this problem-solving framework to run through different possibilities, however unusual they may be.
However, many of your daydreams are fantasies and you would never want to live those daydreams in reality. Mentally working through those daydreams to identify what it is that you value can help you latch onto personal motivations.
Men tend to daydream in the role of the “conquering hero” and women the “suffering martyr.” This is something to keep in mind because both roles are too vague to qualify as your value.
I tend to favor the conquering hero role even though I’m a woman, but I do have to say I don’t actually want to go out and save the world by dominating over an adversary. It’s just a fun and dramatic way to daydream.
But when I run through those stories in my head, I’ve realized that I value creative, social approaches to situations. I also tend to have a mercantile streak (why declare war when you can trade?).
The point is, how you solve conflicts within your daydreams gives insight into the way you like to provide value to other people. It’s the skillset side of your true purpose.
Emotions are Powerful Signs
Doctors who perform complex surgeries will practice simulations of them to prepare. Daydreaming allows you to do the same without true limitations.
Traditional practice through roleplay or computer models is limited by probabilities. These probabilities are often not fine-tuned to your own lived experience. This means you can’t adequately practice rare or unexpected scenarios effectively , and that’s if there’s someone or something out there able to help you practice anyway.
A person’s true purpose is going to be altered by their circumstances. Someone who was a poor student in high school because they had to take care of a young sibling and wishes to become a doctor will find that they will need to daydream to mentally practice all the strategies necessary to transition from a community college to university.
For example, the aspiring doctor may daydream about what happens when they’re interrupted by their younger sibling when they study and how they plan to address that interruption. From this, they realize their goal is worth it and see that imagined conflict as something they want to overcome before it even happens to them in real life.
You can use this same strategy to play through your daydreams to figure out which one provides the most promise for your future. What conflicts are most interesting and fulfilling for you to challenge?
I used this technique to help me through college and difficult jobs in the past. It’s served me well in narrowing down what it is I want to do in life.
Never discount your emotions because they matter to you. And daydreams allow you to fully explore those emotions.
Applying Daydreams to Your True Purpose
Some people keep dream diaries to understand what their subconscious is telling them. You may find it helpful to keep a daydream diary instead.
This will be your self-help and empowerment guide to motivate you in discovering your true purpose.
Write down the most common daydreams you have and analyze why you think they matter to you. Then, pick out the value you give to the world from those daydreams to determine what skill set you’ll employ. And finally, note how conflicts you imagined in your daydreams made you feel so you can see what’s worth fighting for.
A daydream is a powerful tool to understanding who you are and what you’re doing in this world, so allow your mind to wander and discover your true purpose.
What’s the best daydream you keep having? Let me know in the comments!
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