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  1. What is your opinion on decks that were gifted by ex partners? I’m going through a rough breakup and now my tarot deck doesn’t feel like it’s mine anymore. Should I give it back, or do I give it away?

    1. That’s a great question! It depends.

      In general, a gifted deck is unlikely to be a problem. You’re likely already infused it with your own energy. However, if this deck was gifted when a relationship was starting to go sour then there may be some negative energy in the cards.

      And even if there is NO negative energy, looking at the deck could make a person sad.

      The reason why your deck doesn’t feel like yours anymore is because it’s a gift and not necessarily related to tarot (but it’s use is affected). When you were using the deck, it reminded you of your relationship with your partner. But now that you aren’t together the same feeling it used to give you it no longer does. It feels alien. So it’s much harder to feel happy using it.

      You can either give it back or give it away. The feeling you’re having is personal. There’s nothing negative about the deck itself in this case.

      1. Im just beginning my journey in my personal power, spirituality and I’ve been really intrigued in the mysterious depths of tarot. I’ve heard/read the same thing of a deck needing to be gifted but I have a question about this article.
        Question; Why is acceptable to steal a deck but not to buy one for yourself? Wouldn’t stealing from another person attract far more negativity with higher ramifications than doing the karmatically right thing like buying your first deck as a beginner? And as a beginner who has no other spiritually connected friends, how would someone obtain a gifted deck then? Tell them to buy it I guess but to me that would almost the same as buying one myself except without having the ability to sense the decks aura to feel if it’s the right one for me.
        Im not being snarky, I truly am asking. I do think the paragraph condoning stealing is questionable but maybe there’s something to it im unaware of. Thanks for reading.

        1. Stealing a deck is part of the superstition behind not buying your first deck. I assume the reason people think it’s okay to steal is that it is a way to hurt the capitalism behind selling tarot. So to them, stealing from a store is okay, but stealing from another reader would be wrong.

          Because the superstition behind not buying your first deck isn’t correct, so is the superstition of having to steal your first deck.

          The other reason why people demand they you can only be gifted a deck is gatekeeping. It’s a problem with a lot of esotericism: the belief that only certain people are chosen to pursue it, so if you were never gifted a tarot deck, you’re NEVER allowed to be a tarot reader.

          It’s all pretty silly and wrong.