Self Concept Determines If You’re Spiritually Attractive
How you see yourself radically transforms how attractive you’ll be to others. This is because your perception of self is a spiritual energy you send out into the world and that other people’s souls respond to.
But what does that happen?
Why Your Belief of Self Matters
One of the most difficult concepts in relationship spirituality people struggle to accept is that attraction is determined by your self concept.
There are always exceptions, but generally speaking, you become attractive if you believe yourself to be attractive.
But what does this mean?
Like attracts like, and on a romantic level, you attract someone to love you if you come across as a loveable person.
This creates a powerful magnetism that is felt in both your body and theirs.
Self concept in relationship spirituality is your perception of loveable traits. Are you beautiful? Are you smart? Are you friendly?
It doesn’t have to be all possible attractive traits at once, but you need to have something you like about yourself for someone to like you back. Self loathing does not lead to attraction.
You Send Your Identity to Potential Lovers
However, I’ve seen people assume that someone is attracted to them because they project attraction. This occurs when someone wants to be loved more than they want to be in a reciprocal love.
They latch on to someone they think is attractive, but instead of feeling their love for another person, they feel love only for themselves and want to take love from someone else and attach it onto their body, mind, and spirit.
Ick. But, honestly, we’ve probably all done this at some point. It’s what leads us to love categories or stereotypes of people that fill a list of requirements instead of the individual.
This one-sided attraction can cause you to misinterpret the reception of your attraction as reciprocal. You’re just seeing yourself in another person.
And the reason this happens is that your self concept isn’t that you’re loveable, but that you lack the traits you want to find attractive in yourself so you look for them in other people. Or rather, you demand them.
Love Is a Natural Mirror
As you can imagine, thinking about yourself sends a lot of mixed signals to other people. It creates mirror confusion.
Attraction at the spiritual level is a matter of mirroring the other person. We tend to like other people for traits we either want in ourselves or find complementary.
This is why self concept is important, but it has to be done correctly. It needs to be felt and understood instead of ruminated on and or controlled.
When considering the parts of yourself that you like and wanted to be loved for, try to separate them from what you’re looking for in a partner. That doesn’t mean not wanting someone who shares the same trait.
Imagine you believe yourself to be smart: don’t assume that a partner’s intelligence is necessary for you to remain intelligent. They’re two separate qualities.
You need to detach from a love interest’s identity in order to have your own so you can send the right spiritual signals. You love both your intelligence, but also the individual intelligence of your love interest.
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