Why Soulmates Aren’t Always Romantic
Most people see soulmates as a romantic connection. I don’t blame them.
In our atomized society where communal bonds have broken down and you spend most of your time with your significant other, it makes sense they’d be a soulmate. And since adults tend to make fewer friends and increasingly don’t have children, they’re going to assign the possible role of soulmate to their most important relationship.
In some cases, it may be the only relationship a person has. No friends. No family. Just the person they’re sleeping with.
But the reason why this misunderstanding of soulmates persists is that people don’t know what a soulmate truly is. A soulmate helps you grow and achieve the greatest potential in your life. That potential isn’t just to be someone’s romantic partner. It’s more than that.
Let’s dive in and find out why.
You’re Part of Something Greater
Pretty much every religion and culture has a general concept of a higher purpose. This was challenged with the philosophical idea of nihilism in the 1800s, but even then, actual nihilists who understand the philosophy did encourage people to create meaning for themselves.
Those who misunderstand nihilism or choose to break down all connections to other people will objectify romantic partners. I think this has laid the foundation for the confusion about soulmates in our modern culture.
Your connection to another person isn’t merely physical. It’s not only sexual attraction. It’s a deep, intimate bond that attracts you in a process of spiritual magnetism.
But this spiritual magnetism isn’t arbitrary. It’s designed to put you into contact with other souls so you can grow and transform. This helps you to take part in a greater purpose in this universe.
You’re attracted to a romantic partner as a soulmate because it helps perpetuate that mission either directly or indirectly. Maybe this person pushes you to be your best or perhaps being with them in a romantic sense raises your vibration and thus your energetic profile to truly engage with the world.
But whatever your higher purpose and your contribution to the greater good, you’ll likely find yourself meeting more than one soulmate in this life. And they aren’t all your romantic partners. Sometimes they’re friends, family, a coworker — the possibilities are endless.
How To Treat Romance Going Forward
Our modern culture makes it more likely and almost inevitable that any healthy relationship with a romantic partner is also going to be a soulmate.
This is because you’re economically tied to them and you’re no longer part of a village-like community with extended family and stronger peer relationships. If you do belong to a more traditional culture where this is still in place, capitalism probably atomizes your economic household to make you rely on them as a general life partner.
Sometimes, this economic dependence can result in a person mistaking a twin flame for a soulmate. A twin flame is the other half of a soul split from a previous life or in the womb (think twins). You’re attracted to each other because you “complete” each other and trigger special energies.
However, free will can result in a twin flame abusing this connection. A soulmate, by definition, cannot abuse the connection because twin flames are eternal, but soulmates are contextual to a person’s current spiritual magnetism.
But even if you have a romantic soulmate, you shouldn’t automatically assume the romantic aspect of your relationship is the reason you’ve been spiritually magnetized to each other.
For example, a couple who creates a business together may be soulmates because they have the same life purpose. Another couple may be soulmates because one is shy and the other is charismatic, so they push each other to look at the world in different ways. It expands their understanding.
They might’ve had the option to never engage with each other as romantic partners, but remained as soulmates through friendship.
If you’re in a relationship right now, consider how that relationship pushes you to be a better person. And if you aren’t in a relationship yet, try to look for that in anyone you become interested in.
Otherwise, I suspect you may find any romantic connection unsatisfying. You’re so used to people with healthy romantic relationships around you also being soulmates that you’d probably think there was something missing if you didn’t also have that.
We aren’t part of cultures where your marriage to a spouse is purely an economic transaction and the different responsibilities you lead result in little time being spent together.
If you’re in a romantic relationship now, you’re spending a lot of time together and investing in each other emotionally.
You Should Have Multiple Meaningful Relationships
Remember how I said humans have been atomized away from a village-like community? Even though modern culture is trying to heal that wound by putting more weight on romance, it isn’t working.
Before the internet and online dating, people had much stronger bonds with their family, friends, and community. But with the internet and online dating, people assume the simple conversational transactions online are sufficient for real connection.
Relationships aren’t about filling up your social needs bar. It’s about a mutual give and take in the real world. An emotional connection that you feel when you’re in their presence. This is how soulmates are created and maintained.
It’s not impossible for two people to meet online and then become soulmates. However, this necessitates meeting in person at least occasionally to develop that bond. We don’t present our real selves through text or video.
We become revealed in person because the souls seem to interact the closer they get. That’s spiritual magnetism at work.
You have multiple needs and desires across your lifespan. As a child, you need your family to take care of you. As an adult, you need peer and community relationships to feel connected to a greater contribution.
Soulmates help you facilitate that in ways a romantic partner should not do when you’re a child and would be overwhelmed if expected to do it all for another person as an adult.
Every person in the world is different. The healthy relationships you create with other people creates a different spiritual magnetism that’s worth exploring. You can have more than one soulmate in your lifetime. In fact, you should make it your goal to do so.
One Last Thing
I hope that you either have or will soon meet a romantic partner who will become your soulmate. But I don’t think you should stop there.
If possible, look to other relationships you have in life such as friends, family, and community, to either deepen or develop a soulmate connection.
You are a complex individual who can have a diverse relationship and spiritual connection the more soulmates you encounter. So get out there. I’d like to see you manifest the best life possible.
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