Who Is Spiteful in Your Life: Tarot Pick a Card

Do you have a weird sense that negative energy is attracted to you? If so, this is the tarot pick a card the universe has provided to help to uncover a secret nemesis. This person may be someone who likes or even hates you, but they certainly have some resentful energy and it’s making your life just a little bit harder.

All you have to do is look at the piles of cards above. Which animal stands out to you the most? That’s your pile and that’s your tarot reading!

After you select your cards, scroll down to your pile or choose below.

Here I’m using the Wild Unknown Tarot and the Fin de Siècle Kipper Oracle decks while the animals are from an Acekar Sticker Pack (these are affiliate links that support me if you make a purchase).

Remember that you have free will. That means you can manifest the positive and avoid the negative of any reading.

Now let’s find out the mystery of who is being spiteful in your life.

Pile 1: Dog

Destiny Hurts

Your first card is Pathway. This indicates that the person who is being spiteful in your life is someone you were destined to meet. Although the universe wants the best for you, the people you meet along the way can act willfully in their own interest – or you did at the expense of theirs.

It’s not entirely clear in this spread if you or the other person is to blame, but I don’t think it ultimately matters. This person is likely a former love interest because of the next card, either someone you were in a relationship with, a crush, or a person who liked someone you were with.

When it comes to love, things can get pretty bitter. Even when one or both parties move on, hurt feelings can linger. When certain dates roll around, like anniversaries or holidays, this becomes a reminder to the spiteful person and their intense feelings are sent out into the world.

That means it’s entirely possible that this person is someone no longer in your life and you may not be able to confront them. But there’s some good news here.

How to Soothe

For most of you, the spiteful energy in this spread is fading. Some of you may find only a subtle hint of it in your lives. But regardless, know that the effect this person’s spiteful energy has for you won’t last. You don’t need to do anything to reduce its effect in the long term. It will eventually fade away entirely.

The second card, Lovers, Reversed, indicates the origin of these bad feelings. You have an intense connection with this person, either in a direct romantic relationship or through one.

My advice to you to make handling this spiteful energy easier is to recognize that your current energy is stronger than their fading one. The more you practice embodying positive energy, the easier it will be to overpower negative energy.

That can be difficult for active problems, but the spiteful energy in your spread is more distant. That means you can use the Law of Attraction through practices such as affirmative statements or journaling to raise your vibration.

If you’re in contact with this person, it can help you to remind this person of the good in their life, especially romantic things. What feelings they had in the past will always pale in comparison to their present relationships and life events.

Some Techniques

Your final card is the Six of Swords. This is about moving on and it’s why I think the effect of the spiteful energy in your spread isn’t something you need to worry about for long.

For some of you, it’s going to be very temporary because the person responsible is reminded due to an anniversary or holiday and will soon be distracted by something else.

If it’s a temporary blast of negativity, do some self-care or spend time with someone you love to soften the effect of the lower vibrations.

However, if this negative energy is lingering, you may find it useful to do a cord-cutting ritual, journal prompt, or meditation. Throwing up protective energy shields like this can be healing when the energy is overwhelming you.

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Pile 2: Panda

A Person Unattended

With your first card being Expectation and the second being Son of Cups, it seems as if you or the person being spiteful had failed expectations. These are not romantic expectations (otherwise you would have selected the first pile as both piles are similar), but social ones.

That means this person is likely to be a platonic relationship – and perhaps one you still have.

It would do you good to take some time out of your day and consider if you have been failed by someone or you failed someone else. It’s surprising how easy it is to let someone down. It can be because of an event not attended, a task left undone, or unmanaged feelings.

Everyone is sensitive, but some people are more vulnerable than others. Especially if these failed expectations are now a habit.

If you were the one with failed expectations then that means the other person thinks your expectations were unreasonable and is spiteful because you expect better than you’re receiving.

But if the other person was failed by you, and I lean slightly more on this for most who pick this pile, then they’re spiteful because they feel unheard or undervalued.

How to Heal

The next card is the Son of Cups. The spiteful person is very patient and slow to anger – but I do think they may explode with anger or break the relationship if things continue as they are.

It’s really important for those who realize this person is still in your life to talk to them directly. This is especially important if the other person is dependent on you in some way, like a child, and they would always feel uncomfortable approaching you first. If this person is actually a pet (I imagine some of you have spiteful cats), then observing the pet carefully to see how they’re doing is important.

But even if the other person isn’t a dependent, being honest and communicative can go a long way to healing wounds for both parties. Sometimes, relationships need tending to. They don’t always persist without issues.

Things Will Get Better

Your final card is the Ten of Wands, Reversed. This is a very good card to pull in your spread because it suggests your burdens will be relieved – and I see that burden as the spiteful energy being sent your way.

While a small minority of you may discover the confrontation ends in a relationship break (such as those who confront someone who doesn’t value them and they don’t want to change), the vast majority will have a meaningful heart-to-heart.

It’s not easy to make amends. The reason this spite exists is that the other person feels as if that distance can’t be closed with compassion. But by reaching out and trying to heal, you’ll pleasantly surprise this person (or pet) and they’ll be very responsive.

Most people don’t throw away relationships when an issue arises. They want healing to take place – they just don’t know how to get started. So if you start it, the healing will occur because it’s already desired.

By indicating to the other person that you value the relationship, forgiveness and good feelings become possible on both sides.

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Pile 3: Rooster

Fire Burns Too Hot

The spiteful person in your life is seen in the Main Female card. She is a woman in your past or present who either had a close relationship with you or someone who suffocated you.

I lean slightly more towards a woman with some narcissistic qualities because this spread indicates someone who cares about themselves. Your happiness is only acceptable if it’s an accessory to her own. The minute you get in her way, even accidentally, means you become the obstacle to be annihilated.

Of course, this woman could be a particularly fiery best friend, family member, or romantic partner. If that is the case, know that this spread outlines a negative aspect of your relationship that’s hurting you. Her spite is poisoning your life.

Because of her power over you, you likely allowed her to affect you to save the relationship or to just be polite. But with bad people, you always have to push back, and with fiery relationships, you can’t let them burn you alive.

Two Possible Origins

The next card is the Daughter of Wands. I thought of the image from the traditional tarot deck here which features an adventurer in a desert. This spiteful person is a free spirit and they’re willing to take risks.

From her perspective, she may not even be aware of how much she hurt you. This is depressing if she’s a close relationship because you expect better. But she’s more concerned with her own life story and is willing to leave you in the dust.

You may need to confront her and let her know that her actions are hurting you. But she is likely to erupt in anger. Be prepared for that and to step away so she can cool off. I think she’ll get the message and wise up.

But if this person is malevolent, then her spite is intentional and somewhat impersonal. Confronting her won’t solve anything because she doesn’t care about you at all. Your best course of action is to put as much distance between you and her as possible.

You’ll still feel an energetic connection for a while, but her impersonal connection to you and adventurous spirit will break soon enough when she gets distracted.

Falling Swords

The third card is the Four of Swords, Reversed. This is about waking up to reality. For those of you with whom this Main Female is a close relationship, the universe is saying that she will accept how she’s hurt you and try to be better.

This may be a slow process, but her fiery spirit will motivate her to put a lot of energy into it. Have patience, but be firm so she doesn’t slip up and go back to bad habits. You don’t really have to do anything other than advocate for yourself with strong statements.

As for the person who is antagonistic, I think this card indicates her awareness that you’re no longer a pushover. She may still try to overcome you, but she’s likely to give up. There are easier targets out there for her to step on.

We see a lamb here. Lambs are associated with sacrifice in Western symbolism. As a reversal, the swords are falling away from the lamb – meaning the Main Female’s cutting effect won’t last. You just have to not let yourself be martyred on the altar of her self-interest.

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