Where Your Connection Is Headed: Tarot Pick a Card
You’re either in a relationship right now or have a crush on a specific person. Either way, you want to know if this romantic connection has a future. With this tarot pick a card, now you can uncover where destiny might be taking the both of you.
It’s easy: all you have to do is select one of the piles of cards above. If you don’t have a connection with someone right now, look forward to a singles pick a card from me in the future. But for those who do have a connection, this tarot reading is for you.
After you select your cards, choose below or scroll down to your pile.
In this reading, I’m using the Everyday Tarot and the Work Your Light oracle decks (these are affiliate links that support my tarot reading). I’ll be asking the universe three questions: what is your connection like right now, where is your connection headed soon, and how to make your relationship last.
Now let’s see where your connection is headed romantically.
Pile 1
What Your Connection Is Like Right Now
With your first card being Judgement, Reversed, you may have a lot of questions about your connection. That’s because this card challenges you to consider what you value.
There’s something about the way you approach relationships that isn’t healthy. It’s causing your current relationship to sour, possibly in a subtle way, and now you aren’t sure if it can be salvaged.
But those tender feelings you have are still there. It’s why you’re hesitant to break away from a connection that doesn’t seem to be working. Why is that?
The fact is that your connection is being tested right now and either you or your person aren’t answering the call. Because of this, bad things from your past are being dredged up.
No matter how much you may like a person in the present, your past experiences will always influence your relationships. But bad experiences don’t have to have lasting negative consequences.
I don’t want to say that social trauma is a choice, but it’s important to realize that you can’t expect your person to do the healing for you. It’s not a healthy expectation to have. But too often, we all look towards the people we love as healers even if it’s a role they aren’t able to take on.
Understand that your connection is in the middle of a trial right now. This trial is going to produce a lot of anxious emotions that can taint your perception and cause you to make the wrong decisions.
Where Your Connection Is Soon Headed
Your first card gives you a good indication that your current connection is in some troubled waters. But what about the near future? The next card in your spread is the Eight of Pentacles, Reversed.
I believe that the current issues you’re facing in your connection are going to lead you and your person to become distant from each other. One or both of you won’t invest in making the relationship work. Your connection will “die” before it officially ends.
As you can imagine, this isn’t a promising sign, and I wouldn’t blame you for being upset right now. But instead of losing yourself to despair, see this tarot reading as a wake-up call.
The first thing you need to do is recognize and understand what’s wrong with your connection. From your reading, I sense that idealistic expectations are creating a situation where you aren’t getting what you want.
You can’t control the other person, only yourself, so what you need to see is how your expectations are causing you not to live in the moment with your partner.
A lot is going to depend on early action. You need to invest in your relationship with some practical, down-to-earth quality time.
Ask yourself if you are lost in your head, especially when your person is talking to you. This is probably where the problem began because you lose yourself to nostalgia and dreams instead of interacting directly with your person.
It’s okay to dream – keep doing it! But make sure that you aren’t daydreaming when you’re meant to be having a moment with your person. Connections are made in the moment, not in hindsight. Unfortunately, hindsight seems to be what you’re focused on!
How to Make Your Relationship Last
Your final two cards are Starseed with the wisdom message of “What lights you up?” and The Ever-Unfolding Rose with the wisdom message of “Cracked open. It’s happening for you, not to you.”
I find these cards interesting. Starseed is a clear reference to using your daydreaming, idealistic notions for good. Keep dreaming, but not in the moment, and then use those ideas to inspire your future quality time together.
The second card, The Ever-Unfolding Rose, has a more complex message. I see your current connection as an opportunity. The universe is testing you. Roses are beautiful, but they have thorns, so you must be careful how you handle them.
Interestingly, roses are beautiful even when their buds are closed and stunning when they’re open. I think one of the reasons why you’re so idealistic and hopeful about your relationship is that your soul can sense the potential in the connection. It’s just not being realized right now.
What you need to do is carefully pick up the rose with the right attention and care. If you do that with your relationship, you’ll be pleased to discover that it’ll continue to bloom into something beautiful.
But understand the word of caution in this card: the rose is “ever-unfolding” which tells me your connection is a soulmate after all. The potential is that your relationship can last, but it will always be marked by challenging thorns.
If you think the thorns on your rose are worth it, pursue it with your full heart.
Pile 2
What Your Connection Is Like Right Now
Do you feel like you’re holding yourself back? The Ace of Cups, Reversed usually means that someone isn’t being open about their feelings.
There could be a few reasons for this given your other cards. Perhaps you have feelings for someone, and you don’t understand why. Or you’re shy and it’s hurting an established relationship. Either way, you don’t feel comfortable expressing yourself right now.
Do you see the bird in the card dropping a wafer into the cup of water? The card features a full cup overflowing, but even as it overflows, the bird gives back more to the cup.
But in the reversed position, you can interpret this card as the water flowing out and the bird catching the disk. It becomes a picture of emotional loss.
When you don’t express your emotions, they tend to overflow violently. You may think that repressing your feelings is a good idea right now, but you’re bottling up your repressed emotions and eventually, it will explode.
Chances are, this won’t be good for your connection. It’ll probably be mistimed and interpreted incorrectly. I sense that if you’re single and hoping this connection turns into a relationship, your person won’t be receptive to this emotional outburst. And if you’re in a relationship, it may cause the other person to feel uncertain about your future together.
This probably isn’t the first time. Either you’ve done something like this with your person before (and probably really embarrassed about it) or it’s happened in the past. I think this caused you to feel insecure and afraid to express any emotion at all.
But understand not being open with your feelings is what’s causing the problem in the first place. It’s a nasty cycle.
Where Your Connection Is Soon Headed
This is a promising card. The Four of Cups, Reversed is about overcoming your doubts and seizing a relationship. Even though you’re currently having problems, the universe is telling me you aren’t on a bad path with this connection.
Because this is a reversal in this position, I’m reading this as the “fix” to your previous problem. When upright, the Four of Cups is about being unhappy with your options and holding back. That’s certainly the case with your emotions.
You’re going to feel more confident because you’ll identify what it is you feel exactly and begin to express it.
But this will require you to reject other emotions. Not all of what you’re feeling is productive to your connection, so you need to figure out how to channel the right emotions when you meet your person.
For example, you probably get butterflies in your stomach whenever you see them. The healthy version of this feeling is excitement, but the unhealthy version is anxiety.
Your emotions are complex and have many layers. Because of this, you’re going to need some help sorting through those feelings. Here’s something you can try right now: think about the best memories you have with your person. What were you doing and how were you feeling at the time?
Those positive emotions are the ones you need to seek because they will inspire you with confidence to express them openly. The first step to not repressing your emotions is seeking out positive feelings first.
How to Make Your Relationship Last
My general advice to you is to be confident. That’s repeated in your final two oracle cards. The first is The Age of Light with the wisdom message that “You’ve been training for this for lifetimes” while the second is Don’t Dim to Fit In with the wisdom message “How are you dimming your light to fit in?”
Now I don’t actually think you’ve been training for this relationship for lifetimes. That could be the case for some of you. However, what I really sense from these two cards is that it will take time and practice to feel confident.
Too often, we’re told to be brave as if it’s something that happens in a single moment. That may be true for life and death situations, but for something like a relationship, it requires challenging yourself to do what makes you temporarily uncomfortable.
Being in a relationship is hard. You don’t always know what the other person is thinking or feeling, so you aren’t certain if they’ll be happy with your interest. Because of this, many people will avoid taking the chance so they don’t embarrass themselves.
However, a heart doesn’t break because you get turned down. True heartbreak is being in a relationship and having it fall apart to a breakup or death.
No matter how scared you are, you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone bit by bit. That’s the only way you’ll truly experience love. Repressing your emotions means you aren’t enjoying the full potential of the connection. Love is a shared experience, and part of that is learning how to love first.
Expressing your emotions in a relationship is what love is about.
Pile 3
What Your Connection Is Like Right Now
Your first card is one of the most promising and positive cards: the Knight of Cups. This is because he’s the traditional romantic and chivalric hero.
Your connection has a pure feeling to it. This could be because you and your person are open with your feelings, or that you’re on the same page when it comes to what a relationship should be.
But even though all of that’s true, your other two cards suggest that this pure romance is shallower than it appears. That’s not surprising. Chivalric romances were known for idolizing women and putting them on a pedestal.
I sense that your connection is fraught by idolization of some form too. Right now, you and your person are meeting those expectations, but no one can survive the harsh standards of a perfect romance for long.
You’re happy, you’re hopeful, but it won’t last. The staying power of this connection is that of a crush, not true love.
However, I don’t necessarily say that to worry you. A relationship founded on the same principles has a better future than others. But you will need to grow and become realistic together.
First, ask yourself if you’re really seeing your person for who they are. Chances are, you’ve created a fictional, archetypal dream in your head, and you’ve decided your person matches that description.
But can your person live up to that fantasy? In some way, they’ve probably disappointed and even frustrated that archetype.
You need to recognize these “faults” as their individual personality. Some of these traits are probably bad, but others are just different than your ideal definition of a lover. That’s okay.
Where Your Connection Is Soon Headed
The second card is an interesting one for me because I normally read it positively. However, when I pulled the card for your spread, I thought “bed death” which is where a relationship stops having sexual chemistry.
There’s this concept in relationships of the Honeymoon Period and the Seven Year Itch. After a while, a couple’s more passionate feelings for each other fade. This is a natural process, and couples who welcome this change can transform and take that relationship into a more mature stage.
But others grow distant, realizing that their person is more complex and different from their ideal. This is when breakups and divorces tend to happen.
Yes, your connection with your person is at risk. You aren’t currently on a path towards transforming that relationship into a more mature expression of love.
It’s important to recognize the signs. If you aren’t in an official relationship yet or you’ve just started, then what will probably happen soon is that you won’t spend as much time together. You’ll start having separate lives, but aside from necessary interactions, you won’t do anything where you can keep building that relationship.
A romantic connection needs excitement, like dating, or a sexual rendezvous. But new couples often won’t schedule the time in, relying only on passion, and neglect to understand that passion must be carefully tended to in mature relationships.
For those of you already in an established relationship, you’re probably in the midst of bed death right now. The same advice applies, but you likely missed some crucial time to build your relationship into something stronger. Figure out what you’ve missed in each other’s lives and do a lot more talking than you did previously.
How to Make Your Relationship Last
Your oracle card is Boundaries with the wisdom message “Where do you need to establish better boundaries?” Because your relationship suffers from idolization, you may not have appropriate boundaries. Fans will often push and push to try and place themselves as close to celebrities as possible. This can creep the celebrity out.
Mature couples are happy just sitting next to each other in silence. They know what triggers their partner and they know when they need to be apart. Couples need to understand that love is mutual consent and not one-sided, and that’s why boundaries are so important.
This may be strange advice given your previous cards, but pairing your potential bed death with dating doesn’t mean obsessing over your partner.
New couples often spend every moment together. Ironically, they often know little about each other because the only thing they think about is their sexual chemistry.
You aren’t one body, but two, and sometimes, those bodies are in different places.
Learn what your person needs to be independent and how you can trust and respect that independence. You also need to be given the same in return.
When couples can be independent and enjoy exciting moments together, mistrust and jealousy don’t grow. This is also how you learned to be happy for your partner even when you aren’t directly involved in their life.
As an example, let’s say your partner loves to go golfing, but the thought of teeing up horrifies you. What your relationship would need would be the trust that your partner can go and participate in their hobby. When they come home, you talk about it when you sit down for dinner together.
You aren’t worried about what they’re up to while they’re gone nor are you annoyed that they aren’t spending time with you. Instead, you have boundaries, and you respect those boundaries because you understand the mutual nature of love.
Funny enough: boundaries are what give couples something to talk about when they meet again. Wouldn’t you like to hear about your loved one’s day and hear their stories? And I’m certain you would want to share yours.