Is Your Friendship Real? — Tarot Pick a Card

Hello, my soul friends! I have a free psychic tarot reading today on whether a social connection you have now or in the past was a real friend. This can help answer the question you’ve always had about the depth of your friendship.

To receive your message from the universe, pick one of the piles above using your intuition.

After you select your cards, scroll down to your pile or choose below.

For this reading, I’ve used the Santa Muerte Tarot deck. This is an affiliate link, and it helps support me if you love this deck and want to buy it for yourself too.

Remember that you have free will. That means you can manifest the positive and avoid the negative of any reading.

Now let’s investigate this friendship.

Pile 1: Handbag

A Good Friend, But…

This person is a true friend, but I don’t see the relationship going anywhere. That may sound weird, but there’s a reason for it.

The first card, The Chariot, Reversed, indicates a lack of movement. This friendship is static and isn’t going to develop further. So what you have today or had in the past before you were separated was as deep as it was going to get.

Sometimes, we meet people and we relate to them, but there isn’t an opportunity to go further with that friendship. This could be someone you’re friends with, but it’s unlikely to be a best friend you spend all your free time with.

Or maybe you both have great intentions, but there isn’t a reason to bond more than you already have. This is sort of like a dependable work friend or someone you know from school or the community. You trust them, but beyond trust and general good feelings, that’s it.

There When You Need It

Alright, where does this person factor in as a friend? The second card, Nine of Wands, shows up when someone is an ally or has your back in a difficult situation. That means this person is either morally upright and helps those who need it or believes they owe you their loyalty.

I often see that loyalty in someone from the same religious community, small town or neighborhood, or extended relatives. Sometimes this happens with coworkers or classmates.

An example would be like this: your house burns down and you have nothing left. Your coworker hears about it and gives you a room to stay in and helps you find a new place to live.

This level of charity could confuse you at first. Is this a person you can depend on more than your other friends? Yes… and no. This is a person with a lot of good will and ability to help, but they may not have the same interests and goals as you in life so it wouldn’t make sense to spend a lot of casual time together because you feel you owe them that.

Trust me, they don’t want to be repaid back with someone who pretends to like the same things they do.

The Same Village

So how should you view your relationship with this person? Consider them like a part of your extended family… sort of like a distantly related cousin that you care about. The final card, Nine of Cups, is about wish fulfillment.

Your friendship works best when you pay attention to each other’s major life milestones and celebrate and intervene as necessary. You’re part of each other’s villages and can be there during important moments.

When one of you is having a great time, you cheer them on. When you’re having a difficult time, you step in where you can.

This friendship is about reliability and trust rather than emotional depth and shared hobbies. You care just because you care, and it’s a mutual affection.

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Pile 2: TV

Fair Weather Friend

I wouldn’t say this is a real friendship, but you could transform it into something useful. The first card, Ten of Swords, is a card of ruin. This could be a sign that your friend is only your friend because of self-interest.

That means if circumstances change, they’ll abandon the friendship for their own benefit.

I know that kind of hurts to hear, but if you look at most friendships, that tends to be true. People have very casual, fleeting connections as most friendships are formed based on proximity, frequency, duration, and intensity (how well needs are met).

That’s why people tend to make amazing friendships at school and work… it might be the only time you hit all those aspects of the friendship formula at once.

The intensity of this relationship isn’t great and you aren’t meeting each other’s emotional and interest needs, but you are meeting each other’s goal needs. Being around you benefits them personally. But they don’t feel anything at a deep level.

Strategic Association

Could you change this? Sure. It’s does happen for people who knew each other in school or work and were only casual friends to make something stronger later in life. But it is rare for relationships to change like that in many cultures. The second card, Seven of Swords, indicates strategy.

If you don’t have the same future goals or destination, this person is likely to drop you as a friend when someone else better comes along.

They view the connection as a strategic benefit and are calculating the duration of your friendship based on that.

This is one of the reasons why school friendship in some countries, like the United States, are so shallow. Everyone knows that you’ll stop being friends with each other when you go to college or move for work. But in other countries, like South Korea, the friendships you make in school are supposed to last a lifetime.

Don’t get too emotionally invested in this person. I don’t feel that they have that in you and unless they start showing up in your personal life more and sharing personal things… accept it for what it is: a casual, transitory relationship. You can also gain from it if you look at it that way too. So it can be a mutual benefit if you know when to walk away.

They’re Going to Be Useful in the Future

The final card in your spread is the Queen of Coins. Every person or “friend” you have is a networking opportunity. The more people you know, the more opportunities you have.

So this spread isn’t just about your fair weather friend benefitting… you can benefit from them too. And not just when you’re immediately involved with each other.

While it’s possible this person could sell you out, it’s more likely they would just walk away when their circumstances change, and you’d still be a “friend” to them. Keeping that connection and not getting upset that you’ve naturally grown apart could mean that you could reconnect in the future or even ask them on social media if they know of any job opportunities or home rentals in the area: stuff like that. Which this card seems to indicate will happen.

But be open to returning the favor too. If you choose to remain on good terms after you grow apart, you can both be of use to each other as a networking connection. Sometimes it helps in ways you can’t understand now to have social connections later in life to fall back on.

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Pile 3: Mushrooms

A True Friend

This is a real friend with a lot of potential, perhaps even a best friend or at least a very close one. The first card, Ten of Wands, Reversed, is about feeling liberated from obligations.

When you’re with this friend, you’re in a flow state. You either are able to talk freely or enjoy something of interest together. In other words, you feel good around this person.

That doesn’t mean you like everything the same. There’s a good chance this friend is based on interest or emotional security than other factors, like someone who is charitable or useful.

But the friendships most people care about in the day-to-day are ones like this: the person you can go to and relax around. You’re able to be yourself with them.

Enjoy Life Together

At times, your relationship with this person may be a bit silly due to the Page of Wands card. You like to have fun and may struggle with the more responsible aspects of living. It’s possible you may even get in trouble together.

In essence, you’re a bit like kids hanging out and throwing caution to the wind.

Which is how you should view the connection. It’ll be strongest and most healthy when you’re having fun together. One or both of you may struggle to be the shoulder to lean on in tough times, so don’t expect that this person can tend to your every need. No person can be your everything.

The way people show love and affection is different, and this relationship is most affectionate when you’re having fun and relaxing together.

You’ll also really benefit by trying new things like restaurants, concerts, traveling. Maybe hobbies. You’d likely find them particularly useful and comforting when you’re doing something new.

While they may struggle to be there during intense personal moments, they are great support when you’re doing something that’s scary by choice, like going on an adventure or taking a public speaking class.

Bond through interests and hobbies over anything else. But you will spend more time together than most friendships because of that. You do want most of your friend time to be positive, so focusing on a relationship like this surrounded by fun is a great way to increase your happiness and build meaningful memories.

Pay Attention to Your Energy Levels

Your final card is the Four of Swords which is a card of rest, but not finality. I think this friendship may go through phases. Sometimes, you’ll be too busy for each other, and that’s okay. Texting each other and sharing funny memes can help you bond while you’re tending to your personal lives.

But you may get offended or your friend may get offended when you don’t have enough time for each other. The way to fix this is to make them a priority when things calm down. Say yes to more things than you say no to. Then a no doesn’t seem like you hate the other person.

If this is a person you really value and enjoy spending a lot of time with, you may need to prioritize them in your leisure time. What I mean is that people often assume that hanging out with their friends is too much work and would prefer to stay home and watch television. Yet if they did go out with their friends, they’d have an amazing time.

Start paying attention to how much recovery time you need, especially if you’re an introvert. You may not want to go and do things during a weekday, but a Friday or Saturday night? Always say yes even if you don’t feel like it in the moment, because you’ll know from history that you’ll have enough time to decompress from all the intense fun you had the next day.

Friendship based on shared interests can be amazing, but it can also be tiring too. That’s just because your emotions are so heightened when you’re together that you need to factor in recovery time as well.

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