The Relationship You Need — Tarot Pick a Card

The universe wants you to know that a specific type of relationship would help you the most right now. This is a general relationship reading, not romantic, so open your heart and be ready for whatever wisdom the universe has in this tarot pick a card reading.

To receive your message from the universe, pick one of the piles above using your intuition.

After you select your cards, scroll down to your pile or choose below.

For this reading, I’ve used the Gilded Tarot deck. This is an affiliate link, and it helps support me if you love the deck and want to buy it for yourself too.

Remember that you have free will. That means you can manifest the positive and avoid the negative of any reading.

Now let’s see about the relationship you need right now.

Pile 1: Glass Terrarium

The Right Orientation Towards Life

With the Page of Pentacles showing up as the first card, this means you need a specific type of person in your life: someone with a youthful and positive interaction with the material world. This is someone who has faith in their ability to manifest and is willing to learn and work towards their goals.

If this is the type of relationship you need right now, this could be a sign that you’re ready to manifest or you’re blocked, but the focus is on material concerns.

This doesn’t make you or this person selfish. Pentacles deal with money, but also health, legacy, comfort, hobbies, and anything in the material world that makes life easier and more enjoyable to live.

There may be someone in your life right now, or even yourself, who is so jaded by the difficulties of the world that they’ve become a sponge for misfortune with their negativity.

That’s why you need the Page of Pentacles. They’ll inspire hope within you and push you to want the best for yourself instead of accepting the worst.

Mind Your Network

They say you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Not everyone in your circle is bad, but the Five of Cups here is a strong indication that there’s more negativity than positivity.

That doesn’t mean it can’t change. Your loved ones also grow and evolve, and sometimes for the better, so you can be the good influence to inspire those you care about to want more.

But until you’ve been transformed, you need to replace once or two of the people you spend the most time with, at least temporarily, with people who inspire you.

The good news is that this doesn’t have to be a real person. It’s best if it is a real person, but you can read books, watch videos, and listen to podcasts of an influential figure who moves you at an emotional level.

I’m not saying to develop a parasocial relationship with this person, but if you don’t feel that you can meet someone new in your life, the Page of Pentacles can be a distant mentor you learn from on social media or in their books. But pick one to really specialize on, so it feels like you’re digesting their wisdom instead of skimming it on a surface level.

Productivity Over First Stage Therapy

That said, I think many who chose this pile may find themselves meeting a real Page of Pentacles due to the Ace of Wands card. This is about starting something new which inspires you.

To get unstuck, or to improve a good situation even more, find an activity or group where you’d likely meet someone interested in the same things you are.

Someone who’s struggling to lose weight shouldn’t seek this person out in an overeaters therapy group, but in a beginner’s walking group.

Think with a forward, optimistic perspective and identify relevant online or in-person groups which are positive instead of ranting in nature. It’s good to rant sometimes, but you won’t find a Page of Pentacles there.

So decide where you are in your ability to meet this Page of Pentacles: if you don’t have the ability to meet someone new, find that distant mentor I talked about. But if you’re ready to forge a new social connection, be sure you only join groups that are productive rather than simply therapeutic.

You’re beyond the stage of commiserating. You want to take action.

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Pile 2: Butterfly Group

Too Focused On Perfection

You need a relationship cleanse. With three people cards showing up in reverse, this could be a sign you should be spending more quality time with yourself or reconsider the amount of time you’re spending with people who have the following traits in each of the cards.

The first card is The Hierophant, Reversed. This is about someone who is very moralistic and perfectionistic. It could refer to someone with OCD or moral scrupulosity, but if not, it’s about someone who’s choosing to hurt you with their behavior. They want control even if it is at the cost of your freedom.

Now if this is someone you love or you know they have OCD, this is a kind reminder from the universe that you can’t enable illness nor should you victimize yourself by it. Push this person to see a therapist or at least research information about their condition.

But if this is not someone who deserves your love, you need to understand that their behavior is trapping you into a box. It may be time to distance or even ghost yourself from them.

You may also find it especially helpful to be around disorganized or rebellious individuals. Got a friend with ADHD? Time to spend more time with them. It’ll be healing to see someone not so wrapped up in themselves.

Material Abuser

The second type of person you should be wary of is the King of Pentacles, Reversed. This is someone who has an unhealthy relationship with materialism. They may be successful, or they may be a failure, but what everyone who chose this pile shares in this type is someone who is a parasite to your comfort.

It’s possible this may be the same person as the Hierophant, Reversed, or maybe even an enabler, but this could be a very different person and perhaps a more distant one to you on a personal level like a boss, teacher, or someone with authority.

If that’s the case, distancing yourself may not be possible because you’re stuck under their thumb. My recommendation is survival or psychological separation.

Imagine an employee with a difficult boss. The employee can’t switch jobs right now and isn’t confident HR would side with them in a complaint. In this case, the goal is to stay mentally strong until the employee has the chance to find a new job.

Daily affirmations that this person’s insults don’t mean anything or seeking the therapeutic allyship with another coworker to rant about this person can alleviate some of the stress.

Essentially, connecting with someone who doesn’t have power over you is key.

What this person and you shouldn’t try to do is befriend the King of Pentacles, Reversed in an attempt to convince them to be nice to you. This person has abused their power. They can’t be trusted to change unless you see a revolution in their behavior unprompted by you.

The Sneaky Ally

The third person has no power over you unless you give them a door into your mind. The Page of Swords, Reversed is likely someone in your life who is either unbothered by the two previous people I mentioned or uses you to distract attention away from them.

I saw this a lot in students when I was a kid and later a teacher. A picked upon student would seek out another picked upon student to commiserate with. But this person out of self-preservation would fawn in front of the bullying students and then say or do something to make the bully angry at the other student.

Or, more often, this false friend would use the dependency of the other student as a reason to steamroll them and get whatever they wanted by threatening to leave them isolated if they didn’t. Words and manipulation were their weapon.

Don’t assume that someone weak is automatically someone good. They’ll use your desperation for an ally to trap you. Pay attention to how you feel around them. If it’s suspect, move on.

Now I don’t see your spread as doom and gloom, but rather the universe giving a helpful check-in to help you re-evaluate and empower yourself. You may be tempted to just give in and accept substandard relationships. You were attracted to this reading in your desire to not be alone.

Do not do this. You deserve better. It’s that simple. It’s better to temporarily be less social if you’re away from a negative and oppressive person.

Nobody is owed your compliance and deference if they didn’t earn it.

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Pile 3: Rolling Pin

Focus on Emotion

You need to be around someone who has emotional goals instead of materialistic goals. This could be a romantic connection, but it could also be platonic.

Let me describe it. The Chariot represents an ambitious person. When you hear that, you automatically assume that person is materialistically oriented. However, the third card, Ace of Pentacles, Reversed, immediately discounts that and the Ten of Cups puts an emphasis on domestic concerns.

It’s not bad to have ambitious, materialistic goals. However, few people with these goals can share them with friends, family, or romantic partners. Such goals are individualistic.

As an example: a person wanted to be a tenured professor. Even if everyone else in their life was in academia, the goal of becoming a professor is entirely limited to the individual. It’s also possible they could end up competing for the same open position.

But domestic goals are different. This same person might have a goal like “get married” or “have a group of friends.” Such goals should never be tied to their materialistic goals. It’s about people coming together… not winning.

The Importance of Flexibility

I’ve heard from some female engineers that they dislike dating other engineers. Their male partners tend to be competitive and test them. So if they date outside their industry, perhaps even a blue-collar worker, then there isn’t that ego-materialistic connection.

Their success is theirs. While their non-engineer partner may not be able to talk as in-depth about the industry, they can relate in other ways based on different interests.

Your spread is asking you to be flexible. Consider your most ambitious materialistic goals and ask yourself how the people around you don’t have to mirror that lifestyle or directly contribute to it through networking or shared knowledge.

Too often, people put themselves into a box with whom they’re willing to associate with. And instead of relating on an emotional level, they can only find love, friendship, and family with someone exactly like them. However, they only look at people who share their class in society.

But people are complex. You can relate to others for many different reasons other than your main goals and class. Be open to that.

Four Columns

Consider values and hobbies instead of status and goals. You can try workshopping this by listing into four columns what you value in each.

Let’s imagine that professor from before. Perhaps they value intelligence, have a hobby of video games, want a respected status, and have a goal of becoming a top expert in their field.

They might assume any romantic partner they have needs to be academically gifted, but perhaps a blue-collar worker with an acute interest in mechanics does have a value of intelligence… it’s just expressed in a different way. And maybe they love video games.

I’ve seen a lot of hobby room setups of couples where one side is the wife playing The Sims and the other is the husband playing some war game. They’re able to relate and hang out with each other hours each day.

It’s a lot easier to find people to connect with on an emotional level who don’t compete with you if you focus more on general values and hobbies than having the same status and goals.

The first two are what you want to see in other people. But status and goals? That’s what you want for yourself. If someone close to you has it, you might be competitive or snarky with each other.

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