Deepen Your Connection — Tarot Pick a Card

Hello, my soul friends! Today I have a psychic tarot reading on how to deepen your connection to someone you care about. This reading only works for someone you want to be close to, romantically or platonically, so think about them carefully when selecting a pile.

All you have to do is follow your intuition and pick the pile that sticks out to you the most.

After you select your cards, scroll down to your pile or choose below.

For this reading, I’ve chosen the Chakra Wisdom Oracle deck (this is an affiliated link that supports me if you make a purchase). Remember that you have free will. That means you can manifest the positive and avoid the negative of any reading.

Now let’s deepen your connection.

Pile 1: Red Flowers

Meant to Be

This relationship was meant to be, so there’s a strong universal force pushing you together. The first card, Destiny, features two younger people kneeling in front of two older people.

I believe that you knew this person in a past life and your higher selves have done what they can to either reincarnate you together or to bring your current incarnations into contact.

There may be some unresolved narrative you need to play out with each other or a deep desire to be connected.

However, destiny doesn’t always equal compatibility. You may find yourselves oddly drawn close to each other but fight like cats and dogs because your own free wills have created lives where you’re no longer as in sync as you could be.

Of course, some in this pile will feel in sync, but don’t assume that not feeling in sync doesn’t mean you weren’t destined to be together in this life – it just means that likability isn’t the primary reason you’re together.

You do have some room to reinterpret this connection if needed. This may mean changing the type of relationship or coming to a compromise where you learn to understand each other’s differences.

Be Your Own Intervention

I do think either your higher selves, your ancestors, or the universe is going to intervene. The Miracle card suggests some sort of divine intervention or deus ex machina. This action is meant to push you closer together.

There are a lot of ways these spiritual forces may be used to accomplish this miracle but know it will ultimately resolve in you two coming together as partners either to solve a problem or out of enjoyment.

Because I don’t want your miracle to be the result of a painful life lesson, try to facilitate that miracle through positive and meaningful interactions with the other person.

Dating is a good example. For romantic pairings, it’s obvious what you need to do, but for the platonic relationships in this pile, this means spending sustained and devoted time with this person.

Many parents will try to spend individual time with their children instead of just doing group activities as an entire family. This allows a deeper connection to form. Friends also create best friendships in the same way.

Spend time together so you make the miracle. No reason to come closer because of shared traumatic history if it can be prevented (and the universe will go that far if necessary).

Together Forever

You really need to learn Acceptance. This person is going to be in your life, and even when or if they leave because of personal issues or death, their memory will remain.

Normal parents who break up often make the mistake of thinking their ex is out of their life forever. However, good people and good parents know that they will be talking and meeting with this ex to be there for their child during life events. Acceptance that the relationship never really ends even when the romantic formality does is crucial.

This same level of acceptance is necessary for you. You need to deepen this connection because the connection will always be there, even if it changes in a formal way. And to do that, you must accept on a personal level that you have a spiritual bond that transcends social definitions.

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Pile 2: Yellow Flowers

Love is More Than Duty

One of the best ways to deepen a relationship is through sacrifice, but your spread is about Passion. For those asking about a romantic relationship, this isn’t the sacrifice you make for your partner to be there for them, but instead, it’s the romantic passion you feel for each other.

Spark is important in all relationships, romantic or platonic. It’s not enough to be someone’s partner, family member, or friend – they have to feel like you want to be part of the relationship. Obligation does not create passion by itself (except with children perhaps).

This is all about the desire to be around them because you enjoy their company and want to be with them.

However, your spread approaches this a bit differently. You may not know what it means to have this passion because you assume sacrifice or self-denial is passion. Instead, you need to look to the next card.

Learn What Passion Is

The second card in your spread, Self-Worth, is an introspective card. You’re being called to focus on your hobbies so you can fully understand what passion is without the obligatory connections a relationship has.

Flow state will be useful here. That’s when you lose all track of time and are in the moment. The best relationships have flow state moments too.

That feeling is what you want to seek out and make normal in your relationship, but to do so, you must be able to identify it in your own life first.

Then compare it to moments you have with your relationship. What comes closest to this feeling? Do it more. Haven’t found one yet? Start exploring possible ways to enter the flow state together.

Know that what you’re willing to do with this person may not be your hobby. I don’t really like movies, but I do enjoy watching movies with other people. Be prepared that your interests with other people may be different from your individual interests.

Elevate Your Relationship

In tarot, three means togetherness, but it also means a pair creating something. In this case, your third card, Creation, brings to mind that numerological meaning.

A relationship isn’t a static thing, but a living thing that only exists because two specific people created it. Deepening your connection is about recognizing the existence of that creation as a separate entity from yourselves.

This is why relationships have rituals such as birthdays and anniversaries. You aren’t just celebrating the person or people involved, but the relationships inherent to that event. A child having a birthday party isn’t just celebrating surviving a year of life, but celebrating all the relationships they have with the people they invited.

Consider the ways you can honor this creation. It might be special days or it could be particular things you do together that elevate the relationship. Perhaps you take pictures together wherever you go or you have a secret handshake. It’s really up to you.

Just like a person entering a flow state to create a piece of art, your flow state when it comes to this relationship is about creating a relationship that a piece of art.

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Pile 3: Pink Flowers

Stuck in the Past

There’s something you’re holding onto and that’s making it difficult for you to deepen your relationship further. Your first card, Release, indicates you’re holding onto something negative. See how the person in the card is standing in the middle of a graveyard and unaware of the sun peaking in the clouds behind him?

Things are much better than they appear, even if you think they’re good, but you’re ruminating on something. Ruminating is where your thoughts negatively circle on the same topic again and again.

It could be a past relationship or a past experience. Either way, it comes up when you’re with this other person and it’s difficult to be in the present with them.

Give it Time

The second card is Dissipating. This will require time and you’ll find that letting go isn’t an instant process. Not a surprise: it’s almost impossible to let go of something immediately anyway.

You likely have good reasons for why you’re holding onto it longer than you should, or at least understandable ones. However, this holding is starting to harm you.

One of the best ways to prevent rumination is to not think about it. In this case, introspection like journaling or mindfulness activities won’t really help you as you’ve probably already tried it and likely just ruminated more.

Instead, make it a plan to immediately do something else when you start dwelling on these thoughts.

The goal and process behind this is to weaken your tendency to latch onto those thoughts when you’re triggered as there are likely triggers you can’t completely control.

Now this thing you do could be spending time with your relationship, but I want to dispel the notion that relationships only grow with contact. That’s absolutely necessary, but who and what you do when you’re away from that person also matters.

When you’re ruminating, you’re distancing yourself from your relationship and that rumination can happen whether you’re with this person or not.

Most of the time you’ll find that it helps to go do something else when you ruminate. I like to watch television or listen to an audiobook. However, the real struggle is when you can’t physically go do something else because you’re in the middle of a task, but you’re mind is free to wander to dark places.

Instead, prepare a thought or affirmation you can dwell on instead.

Be Your Own Person Doing Things

Of course, the best thing you can do is occupy yourself. The last card, Workaholic, suggests involving yourself in something.

You may be tempted to make your relationship the focal point of your life to stop this rumination. People often do this when they’re compensating for past behavior or thoughts.

However, having your own life and interests makes you an interesting person with things to think about and share with your relationship. Part of the reason you’re ruminating is that it’s psychologically the most interesting thing for you to do because it’s the most emotionally stimulating (just in a bad way).

If you work with this person or you both work at home, make sure that you spend some time apart from each other during the day. That way, you can talk about what happened to you during the day when you have dinner.

And that’s the final advice of this spread: meet with your relationship to talk about your lives (not your past). This continuous small talk and conversation over interests will decouple you from rumination and put you back into the present.

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